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Extra "survival Fs" to give in relationship; Fronting and Feigning
We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning?
Let's talk about learned reactions…
2 years, 7 months ago
3.7. Determining "Are they a good relational partner?" before committing
Episode 7
We've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actu…
2 years, 7 months ago
3.6b Overcoming spiraling conflicts in trauma-impacted relationships
Season 3 Episode 6
Ever feel like "the issue" isn't really "the issue" in relational conflict? That's because the real issue is buried under layers of protective instin…
2 years, 8 months ago
3.6a. Lost love and authentic connection; the fragmented brain explanation
Season 3 Episode 6
Why do we start close relationships and love connections feeling one way... only to watch them disintegrate, become survival-based, and turn into "re…
2 years, 8 months ago
3.5 Shadow parts vs. successful relationships | Internal VIT for healthy connections
Season 3 Episode 5
We MFs struggle to begin or maintain healthy relationship dynamics, with a lot of externalized finger pointing about why. "Abusers just flock to me."…
2 years, 9 months ago
Special release | "Ah Hell Naw" Learned obstacles to forming close relationships
Why don't we sign up for close connections anymore? Especially after learning about our CPTSD patterns?
It's an episode pulled from the private Fort!…
2 years, 10 months ago
3.4 Vulnerability, Intimacy, and Trust Issues in Relationship
Season 3 Episode 4
"So how do you feel about relationships?
Complicated?
You want them? You despise them? You fear them? You long for them? You try them? You exit them …
2 years, 10 months ago
3.3. Subconscious Self-loathing
Season 3 Episode 3
So you're doing your damndest to be "your best self." Maybe you're confident and comfortable in your identity these days. But, at the same time, you …
2 years, 11 months ago
Hardening versus Healing
Today, sharing a mini essay I wrote for another platform, where controversial perspectives are the topic of conversation.
In so much of this "trauma r…
3 years ago
3.2. Healing self-contradicting brains with Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy
Season 3 Episode 2
Ever feel like you've got a whole household of people contained in one skull? Fighting, just like they did in your family home? Turns out, that's nor…
3 years ago