Podcast Episodes

4.9 Obstacles to Actual self-Love After Trauma

Season 4 Episode 9

The filthiest words: love yourself. 🤮 Why does trauma create barriers between us and... not hating us? Talkin' lost relationships, criteria for love, loss of self, and the endless self scrutiny creat…

Published on 1 year, 3 months ago

4.8 Self Compassion; the Daily Battle for Recovery

Season 4 Episode 8

Education and Responsibility are important for t-recovery... But progress peters when self-punishment predominates. Without self-compassion, regression becomes reality. Let's talk about the requireme…

Published on 1 year, 4 months ago

4.7 Major Image-Distorting self-Defenses [Splitting and Projective Identification]

Season 4 Episode 7

When life serves conflictual and confusing information, our brains simplify it to survive... and fuck us over in the long-run. Let's talk about the "ALL GOOD" and "ALL BAD" self-defense mechanisms of…

Published on 1 year, 5 months ago

4.6. Acting out, Help-rejecting complaining, and Passive Aggression; The (most) Immature Defenses

Season 4 Episode 6

Ready to learn about the maladaptive tendencies of your most difficult relational partners? When we don't believe we're "entitled" to a need or emotion, we vent it into (unwise) action. Let's discuss…

Published on 1 year, 6 months ago

4.5 Narcs, Defense Mechanisms, & (non)Recovery: Intellectualizing, Rationalizing, and Reactionary Decision Making

Season 4 Episode 5

We've learned that narcs don't generally recover because of their "creative narration" abilities. Now, let's talk about some of the ways they spin those stories. Today, we start our examination of se…

Published on 1 year, 7 months ago

4.4. Pathological Structuring of Narcissists (Or, No Integrity without Integration)

Season 4 Episode 4

They'll shake your hand while pissing on your leg, plead and then pulverize promises, and generally give the sense that they're one hundred people who share a face. But why?

Let's talk about narcissis…

Published on 1 year, 8 months ago

4.3. Healing with "Adaptive Narcissism" and Uniqueness | Leveraging Stigma for Permissive self-Healing

Season 4 Episode 3

"Just feel good about your authentic self and don't let anyone wreck your recognition of specialness." Right. Let's talk about what may be holding us back from achieving this safe, centered, self-sup…

Published on 1 year, 8 months ago

4.2. Filial Obligation Narratives, Ambivalence, Perception, and Guilt

Season 4 Episode 2

Why is the decision to sacrifice or save our brains so difficult to make? Let's talk about subconscious narratives we probably all carry, the ambivalence-guilt connection, and the power of perception…

Published on 1 year, 10 months ago

4.1. Making of a Vulnerable Narcissist

Season 4 Episode 1

A big 'nouncement; so long TMFRS! Then let's talk about what constitutes a VulNarc versus "a person with CPTSD." Where does the chronic manipulation come from? How are recovery resources used for tra…

Published on 1 year, 11 months ago

3.12b. Sex on Parts and Survival Programs

Season 3 Episode 12

This year we spoke about Intimacy. Now it's time to confront *Intimacy.* Let's look at the discrepant programs that live inside of us, gathered across a lifetime of adaptation to extreme events and u…

Published on 2 years ago