Podcast Episodes

3.12a. Transference, Projection, Monkey-barring, Displacement

Season 3 Episode 12

We're tying up loose ends in our discussion of relationships! Today, discussing the cognitive copy-pastes we accidentally carry out between past and present relationships - and they ways they set us …

Published on 2 years ago

Self-abandonment vs your best Spanksgiving

Let's cut the brainy shit, the real answer to surviving the holidays is not abandoning yourself.

Need more holiday support? Don't we all. For all the other holiday freebies, just hit up patreon.com/tr…

Published on 2 years, 1 month ago

3.11. Ten Destructive Responses that Set Off Trauma Defenses

Season 3 Episode 11

Back to NonViolent Communication! Here are 10 things the experts say destroy our attempts at vulnerable disclosures and requests. Just in time for the holidays, let's talk about why these conversatio…

Published on 2 years, 1 month ago

3.10. Chronic deprivation, self-sabotage, psychosomatic illness, and abuse dynamics

Season 3 Episode 10

We learn to neglect ourselves at an early age and then everything goes to hell forever after. Stuck in unfixable suffering, toiling away with ineffectual attempts to comfort ourselves, and possibly..…

Published on 2 years, 2 months ago

3.9b Ending Deprivation and Rehabbing yer Brain with NonViolent Communication

Season 3 Episode 9

"Depression is the reward we get for being good children."

NVC helps yer relationships, sure. But it'll also rewire your t-brain trashhabits, emotional misunderstandings, and shit perspectives if you …

Published on 2 years, 3 months ago

3.9a NonViolent (Effective) Communication

Season 3 Episode 9

Ever feel "unheard"?

Well, here's the key to getting your point across and sparking collaboration rather than opposition.

Today, we're talking about NonViolent Communication (NVC) - the 4 step framewo…

Published on 2 years, 3 months ago

3.8b. Shitpologies (AKA non-apology apologies)

Season 3 Episode 8

So, how do we apologize "the right way"... Rather than creating MORE damage through half-assed "I'm sorrys"?

Today, let's talk about the 5 points for offering a real apology for sake of true relationa…

Published on 2 years, 3 months ago

3.8a. The Key to Healing Relational Ruptures (and two people)

Season 3 Episode 8

How DO we heal what's been broken? I've got a short phrase for you - it's what we've all needed to hear all along.

And let's talk about the timeless wounds patched up by real apologies, as we prepare…

Published on 2 years, 4 months ago

Extra "survival Fs" to give in relationship; Fronting and Feigning

We all know about the 4 survival Fs at this point. But how about the additional F reactions- Fronting and Feigning?

Let's talk about learned reactions that keep us feeling safe in relationship... whil…

Published on 2 years, 5 months ago

3.7. Determining "Are they a good relational partner?" before committing

Episode 7

We've talked a lot about committing fully to relationships and overcoming our conflicts together, through examining the subconscious wounds that actually underly our relational upsets.

But here's my …

Published on 2 years, 5 months ago