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Messy Bits...Lonely Dad

Season 1 Episode 1

Messy Bits: The bonus episode where Ciara and Richard tackle your dilemmas, questions and messages. Send yours to us via Instagram @TheyMessYouUpPod

1 month ago

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They Mess You Up Recommend: GoLoud Sleep Sounds

Season 1 Episode 2

Hi everyone - just dropping in between episodes here with a recommendation to help address a massive psychological issue that can actively wrecking y…

1 month, 1 week ago

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The Weight of Shame

Season 1 Episode 31

From dyslexia and aging to sexuality and trauma, shame can leave people carrying burdens that were never theirs to begin with. Ciara and Richard disc…

1 month, 1 week ago

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Modern Love: The Listener Survey

Season 1 Episode 30

Would you check your partner's phone? Does messaging someone else count as cheating? Ciara and Richard dive into the results of a listener survey on …

1 month, 2 weeks ago

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Friendship Breakups

Season 1 Episode 29

Friendship breakups can feel just as painful as romantic ones but we rarely talk about them.
Ciara and Richard discuss rejection, awkwardness, shared …

1 month, 3 weeks ago

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Coming Out Later in Life

Season 1 Episode 28

Why do some people hide their sexuality for decades? Ciara and Richard unpack shame, fear, homophobia, and the emotional cost of living a life that d…

2 months ago

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F*ck Around & Find Out (Parenting)

Season 1 Episode 27

Ciara and Richard discuss “FAFO or F*ck Around and Find Out parenting,” how letting kids make mistakes might be better than stepping in to fix everyt…

2 months, 1 week ago

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Blended Families: The Biggest Mistakes to Avoid

Season 1 Episode 26

Trying to merge two families can create tension, resentment, and pressure for both parents and children. In this episode, Ciara and Richard unpack th…

2 months, 2 weeks ago

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Career Change: Taking the Leap

Season 1 Episode 25

Is it too late to change your career? Or are you just afraid to try? In this episode career shifts, fear of failure, and the pressure to stay where y…

2 months, 3 weeks ago

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Can We Get Back Together? (Listener Dilemma)

Season 1 Episode 24

After ending a long-term relationship in a moment of grief and low mood, a listener is left questioning everything when her ex moves on quickly.

Ciara…

2 months, 4 weeks ago

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