Podcast Episodes

1728 || positive brainwashing || healing the shame that binds you

You really are worth it. There has never been anyone like you. Nor will there ever be anyone like you again. You are unique, unrepeatable and of prec…

13 hours ago

1727 || common thought distortions

common cognitive distortions among shame-based people include: catastrophizing, mind-reading, all-or-nothing or either-or thinking, personalization, …

1 day, 13 hours ago

1726 || grief work || healing the shame that binds you

Grief work: identify, build awareness, re-route with corrective responses.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

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2 days, 13 hours ago

1725 || set your own anchor + ride the wave

Shame spirals tend to attach themselves to certain triggers or anchors we have created from our past experiences. If we are able to create safe, corr…

3 days, 13 hours ago

1724 || delayed grief || healing the shame that binds you

delayed grief is how we end up creating false selves. it's our job to grieve fully, so we can release the attachments to our denial. connectedness, v…

6 days, 13 hours ago

1723 || connection is the antidote || healing the shame that binds you

in order to be healed, we must come out of isolation.

identity formation is a social process, so unraveling toxic shame is also a social process. - …

1 week ago

1722 || you gotta feel it to heal it || healing the shame that binds you

As long as our shame is hidden, there is nothing we can do about it.

“The only way out is through.”

"Embracing our shame involves pain. Pain is what …

1 week, 1 day ago

1721 || when the emotion becomes addictive || healing the shame that binds you

"Being nice is primarily a way of manipulating people and situations." - John Bradshaw

"Perfectionism flows from the core of toxic shame. A perfection…

1 week, 2 days ago

1720 || our culture of shame

Our culture does not handle emotions well. We like folks to be happy and fine. We learn rituals of acting happy and fine at an early age. I can remem…

1 week, 5 days ago

1719 || shame spirals

Sometimes, "“I feel shame” comes to mean “I am shameful, deficient in some vital way as a human being.” Shame is no longer one feeling among many, bu…

1 week, 6 days ago