Podcast Episodes

We Are Like the God We Worship [171]

Episode 171

I have a confession. 

I’m a recovering asshole. 

Years ago, I had a friend. Her husband cheated on her. Then, he did it again. He kept cheating on her.…

4 years ago

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Does the Bible Say I Have to Give My Abusive Husband Sex on Demand? [170]

Episode 170

You’re not a toaster. 

No matter what you've been taught by religious leaders, you’re not a thing to be used.

No matter what you’ve been told by your h…

4 years ago

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Different Ways Emotional Abusers Don't Take Responsibility for Their Behavior [169]

Episode 169

"He wants to treat me better. He just doesn’t know how."

"He says he’s sorry. He really hates how he acts."

"He’s struggling. He can’t help it."

Do you …

4 years ago

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The Worst Things People Say to Justify, Minimize, and Excuse the Abuse You’ve Experienced [168]

Episode 168

I have two presents for you.

One is a regift. The other is brand-spanking, hot-off-the-waffle-press new. 

First, I compiled some of the best (and by “b…

4 years, 1 month ago

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Am I Responsible for Fixing My Husband? [167]

Episode 167

If you break abuse down to the nitty-gritty, at its heart is something called “emotional childhood.” Abusers think everybody should make their life w…

4 years, 1 month ago

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How Churches Can Help Abuse Victims (And How They Often Hurt Them Instead) [166]

Episode 166

It’s hammer time.

I’ve broken down the problems churches face when abuse victims come forward (along with how churches usually react). Then, I smash t…

4 years, 1 month ago

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How Do I Know What Is Real or True When My Husband Gaslights Me? [165]

Episode 165

Is the last thing you googled, “Am I crazy?” or “Why does my husband hate me?” or the literal title of this episode? 

Bleh. Living in such horrible, c…

4 years, 1 month ago

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How Not to Be an Ass [164]

Episode 164

“How Not to Be a Meanie” doesn’t hit the same, does it?

“How Not to Act Out Patriarchal Theology, AKA ‘A Chocolate-Covered Turd’” is probably too long…

4 years, 1 month ago

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The One About God and Religion and Hell [163]

Episode 163

This may be controversial for some of my audience. Twenty years ago, I may have unsubscribed, not understanding what this was actually about. 

What IS…

4 years, 2 months ago

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What If I Had an Affair While I Was Married to My Abusive Husband? [162]

Episode 162

Did you know that abuse has a bestie?

Its sneaky little friend is Shame. Shame is a talkative fellow but very dependable. 

He hangs on your earlobes an…

4 years, 2 months ago

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