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395. Hero, Scapegoat, Lost Child or Mascot: Which One Were You?
Season 9 Episode 395
Which family role were you given? Dr. Abby Medcalf on the hero, scapegoat, lost child and mascot, what the research shows, and how to stop playing yo…
10 hours ago
394. Why You’re Nicer to Strangers Than to the People You Love
You were perfectly nice to the guy at the coffee counter this morning, and you were patient with the coworker who asked you the same question for the…
1 week ago
393. You Can Become Securely Attached (Even If You Didn’t Start Out That Way)
Season 9 Episode 393
You've taken the quiz and you've read the books, so you know your attachment style. But last night your partner said, "We need to talk," and your who…
2 weeks ago
392. How Do You Actually Build Emotional Intimacy?
Season 8 Episode 392
You can be married for thirty years and still feel lonely with the person sleeping next to you. If this is (or has been you), what you’ve actually be…
1 month ago
391. How Do You Know If You’re Really in Love?
Season 8 Episode 391
Today I’m going to walk you through what “in love” really means at the brain level (spoiler: it’s not just chemistry), why fear sounds so much like l…
1 month, 1 week ago
390. “But It Felt So Real”: Why Red Flags Don’t Look Like Red Flags
Season 8 Episode 390
Today I’m not doing the standard “look for red flags” thing. Ugh, I hate that phrase. It puts the whole burden on you to spot something that, by its …
1 month, 2 weeks ago
389. Why You Always Feel Like an Afterthought
Season 8 Episode 389
You wanted them to choose you without being asked because you believe that if you have to ask, it doesn’t really count. You want a partner who puts t…
1 month, 3 weeks ago
388. Why Fairness Is Destroying Your Relationship
Season 8 Episode 388
That's not fair.
You said it as a kid. You've thought it as an adult. Maybe you thought it this morning when you were loading the dishwasher while you…
2 months ago
387. Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Partner
Season 8 Episode 387
If you've ever said, "My picker is broken," I want you to stop right there. Your picker isn't broken. It's working exactly the way it was trained to …
2 months, 1 week ago
386. Why You Do What You Do: An Introduction to Internal Family Systems
Season 8 Episode 386
You've tried to change. You've done the work. And you still find yourself asking: why do I keep doing this? Today, I want to give you a framework tha…
2 months, 2 weeks ago