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Back to Search127 What fight are you trying to win? When your facts won't change their mind
Season 5 Episode 127
How do you react when someone tells you that you're wrong? If the 'facts' support your argument, shouldn't that be enough to prove you're right? But,…
6 months, 4 weeks ago
126 Better than counting to 10: Five valuable ways to handle emotion in conflict
Season 5 Episode 126
Perhaps you've heard the advice to count to 10 when you're upset, before you respond. Good advice if you're the upset person. Not as useful if someon…
7 months ago
125 Heroes and villains don't fight about their worldviews (but you really should)
Season 5 Episode 125
You think that your beliefs are correct, right? They must be. After all, who wants to think their view of how the world works and their beliefs are w…
7 months, 1 week ago
124 Three conflict competent ways to get the other person to listen to you
Season 5 Episode 124
Conversations flow when people take turns speaking. Turn taking in relaxed settings feels fair and companionable. In conflict, turn taking is used to…
7 months, 3 weeks ago
123 What depletes your conflict competence?
Season 5 Episode 123
Have you had some situations, some conflicts, or some people who test the conflict competency skills you've been working to improve? If you recognize…
7 months, 3 weeks ago
122 Five ways to stay non defensive when you're feeling attacked
Season 5 Episode 122
Tense situations come with high emotions and drama. It's hard to to be non defensive, even when you want to. A listener asked for a step-by-step guid…
8 months ago
121 When a conflict ends but it's on replay in your mind
Season 5 Episode 121
Perhaps a bad relationship, (or even a good relationship) ends, but it leaves questions and emotions stuck in your mind. Or the fight is over, the ot…
8 months, 1 week ago
120 How to make your conflict a positive experience
Season 5 Episode 120
Conflict can be a positive experience. It takes practice, is worth the effort, and here's a tip for how to do it.
With practice, your conflicts will f…
8 months, 2 weeks ago
119 Before conflict escalates, consider these options
Season 5 Episode 119
Was there a friend who hurt your feelings, but denied doing it? Who is correct, you who felt harmed or your friend who won't admit doing harm? We dis…
8 months, 3 weeks ago
118 When you feel self defensive, use these conflict competencies
Season 5 Episode 118
Have you ever felt judged or criticized? Did you react defensively, and then they get defensive, and soon the mutual defensiveness escalates (known a…
9 months ago