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Back to Search27 Are pessimists more conflict competent than optimists?
Both pessimism and optimism have strengths and weaknesses in conflict. There's power in pessimism and value in optimism for the conflict competent.
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1 year, 9 months ago
26 Is aggression a conflict competency?
Season 2 Episode 26
It's tempting to be aggressive to achieve the conflict outcome you prefer. Deborah demonstrates that there are other approaches that are more likely …
1 year, 9 months ago
25 Are your conflicts complex, uncertain and heavy with variables?
Season 1 Episode 25
As much as people in conflict want to know the consequences of their decisions before they decide, the answer to most conflict questions is: it depen…
1 year, 9 months ago
24 Who is correct when opinions differ? This simple exercise helps you know.
Season 1 Episode 24
Sometimes, when people quarrel about whose opinion is correct and who is wrong, I use a simple easy demonstration. Afterwards, they still might not a…
1 year, 9 months ago
23 What should you do when the other person's opinion is 'wrong'
Season 1 Episode 23
Conflicts over disagreeable opinions get personal so fast, and, too often, they get insulting. How can you hold such a wrong opinion, you may ask the…
1 year, 9 months ago
22 Three ways to change your conflict pattern
Season 1 Episode 22
Conflicts follow patterns. Changing your conflict patterns improves your conflict competence. Here are three different approaches to changing your co…
1 year, 9 months ago
21 If you dread the family dinner, try these for fun
Season 1 Episode 21
Close friends and family members can trigger your heated reactions even when you like or love each other. They think they know you even when you've g…
1 year, 10 months ago
20 How to turn conversation competence into conflict competence
Season 1 Episode 20
Conflict overwhelms your calm conversational skills that connect you to the other person. So, how do you stay in touch with your calm conversational …
1 year, 10 months ago
19 Whose permission do you need to be conflict competent?
Season 1 Episode 19
It's great to have norms, manners, policy and structure that foster healthy relationships. But - if those aren't supporting your efforts, you can giv…
1 year, 10 months ago
18 How to lower the heat with your conflict script
Season 1 Episode 18
Change your conflict script; change your conflict. Here's a creative way to rewrite your conflict script to skip the conflict part of the script. Deb…
1 year, 10 months ago