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Back to Search57 What conflict competencies help overcome biased thinking?
Season 2 Episode 57
A bias can make decisions easier. You don't have to think hard if you already know your bias for herbal tea and against caffeinated tea. But when bia…
1 year, 5 months ago
56 What's the disconnect between your intention and the impact?
Season 2 Episode 56
Have you made a comment that you intended as helpful and been criticized rather than thanked? Depending on how you respond in the situation, the cycl…
1 year, 5 months ago
55 How do you express vulnerability in your conflicts?
Season 2 Episode 55
You have choices about how and when you let the person you're in conflict with know that you're feeling vulnerable. Since your sense of your vulnerab…
1 year, 6 months ago
54 What's on your conflict mental map?
Season 2 Episode 54
Everyone has a mental map of what conflict does or should look like, how it unfolds, and your ideal ending. Not everything on your conflict mental ma…
1 year, 6 months ago
53 How shame impacts your conflict competence
Season 2 Episode 53
Feeling shame doesn't leave you much room for dealing with conflict. Shame fills a lot of space, crowding out empathy and perspective taking. How can…
1 year, 6 months ago
52 When conflict competence doesn't 'work' for you
Season 2 Episode 52
Have you taken a conflict course and then not used what you learned? Here's what you're missing when you have the knowledge and don't use it regularl…
1 year, 6 months ago
51 Four benefits of doing the work to be more conflict competent
Season 2 Episode 51
Maya Angelou said, “I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made th…
1 year, 6 months ago
50 What you miss when you respond the same to every conflict
Season 2 Episode 50
You may be comfortable avoiding conflict, which is one of the many responses available to you in conflicts. Avoiding would be your pattern and it can…
1 year, 6 months ago
49 What to do with conflicts stuck in past experiences, present anxieties, or future fears
Season 2 Episode 49
The words people use can provide insights into what keeps a conflict going. It's a conflict competency to notice the past, present or future tense of…
1 year, 6 months ago
48 The difference between presenting issues and real issues in conflict
Season 2 Episode 48
Perhaps you know how to say what you want as an 'I message' rather than a 'you message' to avoid antagonizing the other person. I suggest additional …
1 year, 6 months ago