Podcast Episodes
Back to SearchWhat Happens When You Stop Needing to Be Right - Certainty, Curiosity, and Emotional Immaturity
Season 1 Episode 475
Why does certainty feel safer than curiosity—and why does that quietly run so many of our relationships? In this Q&A crossover, Tony answers three…
10 hours ago
What You Don't Know You Don't Know About Meditation (Hint: You Can’t Stop Thoughts or Clear Your Mind!)
Season 1 Episode 474
Mindfulness isn't about emptying your mind or finally feeling calm—and believing it was is probably why you quit. Your emotions fire before your thi…
1 week, 4 days ago
Murder on the Couch: When "I Did It For You" Is a Lie
Season 1 Episode 6
A heads-up before you press play: this is a bonus crossover from my true crime podcast, Murder on the Couch, dropping into your Virtual Couch / Wakin…
2 weeks, 5 days ago
The Validation Paradox: Why Reassurance Can Feel Lonely
Season 1 Episode 473
Your partner said all the right things. So why do you feel MORE alone than before you opened up? Welcome to positive invalidation. That strange ac…
1 month, 1 week ago
It's Not About the Dishes - Trojan Horses Hiding in Every Marriage
Season 1 Episode 472
The dishwasher fight you've had a thousand times? Or is it about the laundry, where you’re going to eat, making the bed, and cleaning the kitchen? Th…
1 month, 3 weeks ago
You Can’t Cram for the Test of Life - Dr. Mark Redford on Flossing, Faking It, and Why Habits Never Lie
Season 1 Episode 471
You lie to your dentist. You lie in therapy. And here's the uncomfortable truth — the patterns you think you're hiding are hiding nothing. Tony Ov…
2 months, 1 week ago
They Said All the Right Things (and Nothing Changed): The Anxious-Avoidant Trap w/Mackie Overbay
Season 1 Episode 470
Why do the same conversations keep "resolving" without anything actually changing? Tony and his daughter Mackie unpack what they call "mouth sounds"—…
2 months, 3 weeks ago
You're Not Bad. You're Carrying the Problem: Shame, Triggers, and Healing
Season 1 Episode 469
"I was triggered" vs. "I chose"—what if both are true, and neither gets to the real problem? When a listener sent Tony a viral video challenging peo…
3 months, 2 weeks ago
Why "Me Too" Feels Like "Not You": Stop Fixing, Start Staying
Season 1 Episode 468
You said, "That sounds really hard," so why is your partner still upset? It's called the Empathy Dash — that moment you touch your partner's pain …
3 months, 2 weeks ago
Validation, Co-regulation, and Emotional Immaturity (with a Hint of Spirituality) w/Angela De Hoyos, ALC
Season 1 Episode 467
What happens when your greatest strengths—your empathy, your willingness to self-reflect, your sensitivity—become the very tools someone uses to conv…
4 months ago