Podcast Episodes

Ep. 65: How Behavior Changes

Season 1 Episode 65

“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~Carl Rogers

You know, one of my favorite things about studying relational neuroscience is discovering the science t…

Published on 3 years, 11 months ago

REPLAY: X-Ray Vision Parenting Superpower

Hear me out....If I were in charge of giving out superpowers for parents, especially parents of kids with a history of trauma, I'd give you x-ray vision.

Attachment research is clear about the power o…

Published on 3 years, 11 months ago

REPLAY: Lisa Dion on how Regulation Does Not Equal Calm

What if I told you that calm isn't best?  Calm isn't what we are working toward!  And prioritizing calm gives other states of the nervous system a bad wrap!

Calm is just a byproduct of an attempt to …

Published on 3 years, 11 months ago

REPLAY: Trauma Behavior? Or Just Regular Kid Acting-Up Behavior?

You’ve asked yourself “Is this a behavior that’s coming from my child’s trauma?  Or is this regular acting out kid behavior???”

Sometimes it’s pretty obvious but if you’re asking yourself that questio…

Published on 3 years, 11 months ago

REPLAY: Not Flipping Your Lid...When Your Kid Flips Theirs

How do we not flip our lids when our kids are going bananas?  It's HARD.  Because dysregulation is quite literally contagious!!  And if we flip our lids too then it's usually pretty hard to deescalat…

Published on 3 years, 11 months ago

REPLAY: Self-Compassion Keeps You Regulated

I love love love talking about self-compassion for two main reasons.  #1- Self-Compassion is solidly anchored in the relational neurosciences- and you know how much I love...and need...for things to …

Published on 4 years ago

REPLAY: Why Do I Get So Dysregulated?

Or mad? Or scared? Or overwhelmed? Or shut-down?

Why do I make a mountain out of a mole hill?  Why can’t I keep it together?  

Being ignored (or yelled at or cussed at or disrespected or refusing to ea…

Published on 4 years ago

REPLAY: Why Good Times Can Suddenly Go Bad

I'll bet you are familiar with this baffling phenomenon.

Everything seems great.  Fun!  Even laughter and real good times.

And all of the sudden- completely dysregulation and melt-down.

Sometimes even j…

Published on 4 years ago

REPLAY: Child Always Dysregulated? Try this!!!

Connection.  Empathizing.  Offering choices.  These parenting ideas sound good in theory but if you are living with a child who seems chronically angry or won’t get out of bed or is otherwise pretty …

Published on 4 years ago

Ep. 64: Right Where You Need To Be

Season 1 Episode 64

As I sat down to prep this final podcast episode of 2021- I really paused and reflected on the question- what do you need?

What Do You Need?

What do you need in December?  In a time of year that often …

Published on 4 years ago