Podcast Episodes

EP 244: When Watchdogs are Volcanoes: Activation below the Surface

Is your child suddenly quiet… but you can feel something bubbling under the surface?

They aren’t yelling, running, or arguing like usual- but you can tell their system is still fired up and on high al…

Published on 1 month, 2 weeks ago

{REPLAY} All Behavior Makes Sense- Decoding the Neurobiology of Baffling Behavior

This episode originally aired in October 2024.

All behavior makes sense and no behavior is maladaptive- in the moment that behavior emerges.

Of course, the IMPACT of the behavior might be maladaptive a…

Published on 1 month, 3 weeks ago

{REPLAY} Grief in Parenting a Child with a VNS

If you're parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system, grief is an ever-present companion, whether we acknowledge grief or not.

The holiday season often stirs that grief up a bit more. Our kids…

Published on 1 month, 4 weeks ago

EP 243: Cool, Calculated- But Still in Protection Mode

Episode 243

Sometimes our kids look completely calm- even smug — while doing something that definitely isn’t a behavior of connection.

But…they’re not melting down. They’re not screaming. They seem totally in con…

Published on 2 months ago

EP 242: Why It's Hard for Your Kid to Take Responsibility

You ask your child what happened, and before you can finish the sentence, they’re already saying, “It wasn’t my fault!”

Sound familiar?

I know this is SO frustrating! But there’s a reason this is so ha…

Published on 2 months, 1 week ago

EP 241: Why Some People Resist Relational Neuroscience

Episode 241

Sometimes you share something about the brain—like how all behavior makes sense—and people push back hard. Maybe they dismiss it. Maybe they even get mad. It can feel confusing, because once you see …

Published on 2 months, 2 weeks ago

EP 240: Window of Tolerance- What it Is and How to Grow It

Sometimes, your kids can handle frustration or disappointment with ease, and other times the exact same challenge sends them into meltdown mode. This can feel really baffling! Why are they so inconsi…

Published on 2 months, 3 weeks ago

EP 239: When Your Words and Feelings Don’t Match

Episode 239

Have you ever smiled while you were seething inside? Or told your child “it’s fine” when it absolutely wasn’t? That mismatch (incongruent affect, we’re gonna talk psychology mumbo jumbo) isn’t just c…

Published on 3 months ago

EP 238: Happy Birthday RKBBB- and a gift for you!

Raising Kids with Big Baffling Behaviors turned TWO! 🥳

So, we’re having a party right here on the podcast.

Parties have gifts, so I’m offering three “gifts” for you- a little help around three behavior…

Published on 3 months, 1 week ago

{REPLAY} Is Understanding Behavior Just Excusing It?

Understanding behavior helps us actually solve the problem, leads to compassion, and actually helps behavior to change, but first we must understand why we are so afraid that understanding behaviors …

Published on 3 months, 2 weeks ago