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🔥 Fasting for children before bar/bat mitzvah (major vs minor fasts)  

 – The common idea that a child must **fast three fast days before bar/bat mitzvah** is described as a **myth**; there is **no such halachic requirement**.  

 – **Yom Kippur**: Shulchan Aruch rules that a **healthy child** should fast **two Yom Kippurs before bar/bat mitzvah** (e.g., a boy may already have to fast from age 11 if he is healthy).  

 – **Training pattern (for healthy children)** as cited from Rav Schachter:  

  – **2 years before bar/bat mitzvah**: fast the **entire Yom Kippur**.  

  – **Previous 2 years** before that: fast **half-day** on Yom Kippur.  

  – Before that age: **no fasting** at all.  

 – **Minor fasts** (e.g., Tisha B’Av, 10 Teves, 17 Tammuz, Taanis Esther): **no fasting requirement for children** at all.  

 – This applies **equally to boys and girls**, adjusted to their respective bar/bat mitzvah ages and health.  

🎲 Gambling for money “just for fun” (Asmachta, gezel, addiction, communal practice)  

 – The Gemara discusses **mesachek b’kuvia** (gambling) and whether gamblers are **invalid as witnesses**. Two main approaches:  

  – **Gezel derabbanan / Asmachta**: the loser never fully intended to part with the money; gambling becomes a **form of rabbinic theft**. On this view, **even occasional gambling** is problematic.  

  – **Eino osek b’yishuvo shel olam**: the gambler contributes nothing productive to society; invalid as an eid only if he **does this as his main occupation**. Occasional gambling would not invalidate eidus on this view.  

 – Rambam writes that a person should **spend his entire life** involved in **constructive, beneficial pursuits** and chochmah; that ethos pushes strongly **against recreational gambling**, especially when it can become **habitual**.  

 – Gambling is characterized as **highly addictive** and often **destructive** to families and finances.  

  – Expert statistic mentioned: in forms of gambling with **instant payoff / instant “rush”**, about **~29%** of people may develop an addiction.  

  – Addicted gamblers can incur **hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt**, sometimes even as kids/young adults.  

 – Since it is often impossible to know in advance **who will become addicted**, the recommended approach is to **avoid gambling altogether**, even “occasional” or “for fun.”  

 – Communal practice critique:  

  – **Jewish organizations** that run “casino nights” are described as **misreading the communal reality**, given the level of gambling addiction among teens in both right-wing and modern Orthodox schools.  

  – It is suggested to **object** to such events and question their appropriateness and leadership judgment.  

🕯️ Benefiting from Chanukah candlelight via photography / monetizing images  

 – The prohibition **“haneros halalu kodesh hem”** forbids **using the light of the Chanukah candles** for personal benefit (e.g., reading or working by that light).  

 – Taking **photos or videos** of lit Chanukah candles, and **selling or monetizing** those images, is presented as **not a violation** of this prohibition:  

  – The benefit is not from the **physical illumination** to see by, but from the **image/representation** being used to **publicize the mitzvah** (pirsumei nisa), which is in line with the purpose of the candles.  

 – Additional leniencies:  

  – After the **required burning time (approx. 30 minutes)**, leftover oil/wax no longer has the same restrictions; benefiting from that light is permitted.  

  – A **shamash** candle provides heter to use the general light in the room, even if Chanukah lights contribute.  

 – Overall, **using Chanukah candles as a background or prop for pictures, even monetized**, is treated as **permissible**.  

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