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Ep 95: Q&A - Why Can't I Just Let Go...Without Alcohol
Episode 95
Letting go, relaxing, and releasing especially without alcohol can feel out of reach for many. In this insightful, toolbox-packed Q&A episode, Anna Donaghey tackles questions from listeners and coaching clients about why it can be so hard to relax or "let go," even after quitting drinking.
This episode explores how patterns of control, nervous system wiring, shame, and old beliefs shape our inability to relax, and offers practical, compassionate tools for beginning to unlearn these habits and find true safety and release.
Here are the Highlights:
00:00 Introduction: Listener questions about “letting go”
01:57 Listener feels unable to soften and release
03:18 The nervous system doesn’t know how to release on its own
04:24 It's not that you're broken, the body has learned holding on is safe
05:33 Why we grip so tightly, and the link to safety and self-protection
06:42 Fear of falling apart, feeling emotions, and losing control
07:38 What does your tightness think it’s protecting?
08:05 Why “trying hard” to release is counterproductive
09:18 Create conditions where release can happen naturally
12:05 The importance of permission in self-care and self-worth
12:48 Seeking support, therapy, and accepting oneself
14:06 Start with possibility
17:19 Replace drinking rituals with calming alternatives
18:04 Healing is slow, small acts accumulate and become safety signals
19:09 Layers of trust: trust in self, trust in others, and (even) trust in life
22:31 “I don’t have to carry this anymore”; letting go doesn’t mean giving up
22:50 Release isn’t a destination, it’s a returning rhythm like breathing
25:03 Micro-moments of softening as daily healing gestures
26:16 Please submit your questions for future episodes.
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To further explore your relationship with alcohol, check out Anna’s self-guided programme, The Big Drink Rethink Experiment: https://www.thebeliefscoach.com/the-big-drink-rethink-experiment
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About the host Anna:
Anna is a certified Alcohol Mindset Coach, trained by Annie Grace of This Naked Mind. Drawing on her own journey out of alcohol addiction, she now helps others explore and control their drinking. With a career spanning 25 years as a Strategist in the Advertising industry, she combines her own lived experiences, with great insight into what makes us tick and what influences us to behave the way we do.
Connect with Anna:
Website: thebeliefscoach.com
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/annadonaghey
Instagram: instagram.com/bigdrin
Published on 3 weeks, 2 days ago