Podcast Episodes

110. Working as intended - Part 3: The standard - How to tell who actually knows what your children need

"Child-focused." 

Two words that appear on the website of virtually every practitioner in the post-separation space. 

Every lawyer. 

Every mediator. 

Eve…

2 months, 1 week ago

109. Working as intended - Part 2: What an Independent Children's Lawyer (ICL) actually is

Nine hundred and fifty dollars. An online module and a one-day workshop. That's the specialist training that qualifies a family lawyer to represent y…

2 months, 2 weeks ago

108. Working as intended - Part 1: What your lawyer was taught (and what they weren't)

What your family lawyer was taught - and what they weren't. 

The first of four episodes on the architecture of the Australian family law system. 

Eleve…

2 months, 3 weeks ago

107. When 'parental alienation' is actually coercive control

"Parental alienation" is one of the most weaponised terms in family law. In this episode, Danielle Black takes the term apart, puts something more pr…

3 months ago

106. Coercive control - What it is, and what it isn't

"Coercive control" has entered the mainstream - and started to lose its precision. This episode brings it back: what coercive control actually is, wh…

3 months, 1 week ago

105. The 5 critical mistakes that parents make in early separation

The decisions you make in the early stages of separation can shape your family for years to come. And yet, most parents make critical mistakes during…

3 months, 2 weeks ago

104. If their name was Brian: family violence in lesbian relationships

There is a phrase I have heard, in various forms, from many of my clients over the years:

"If her name was Brian instead of Barb, the recognition and …

3 months, 3 weeks ago

103. What Mother's Day actually looks like when you're navigating post-separation abuse - and what to do with it

This Mother's Day episode is for every mother who knows the day might be complicated.

For the mothers without orders, whose former partners simply den…

3 months, 4 weeks ago

102. Everyone has a biggest problem - Why your pain is valid, why staying stuck is a choice, and what it costs both you and your children

In this episode, Danielle unpacks something that comes up constantly in her work with clients: the tendency to invalidate our own pain by comparing i…

4 months, 1 week ago

101. AI tools for protective parents: Claude.ai, ChatGPT and AI Danielle - the 24/7 digital coach inside the Blueprint

What if you had access to a specialist coaching resource trained in coercive control, the Australian family law system, attachment science, and nervo…

4 months, 2 weeks ago