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Back to SearchEpisode 550: Ask her out (the two bridges)
Episode 561
It took nearly dying on the adventure of a lifetime for Samwise Gamgee to make a move on Rosie Cotton. The hack to overcoming your approach anxiety is to build a habit of doing more difficult things:…
Published on 2 months, 1 week ago
Episode 549: No one-night stands (how not to find your husband)
Episode 560
Many women believe that initiating a sexual relationship too quickly will disqualify them from a long-term relationship: no one-night stands! However, this is not true. In today's dating scene, sex p…
Published on 2 months, 1 week ago
Episode 548: Don't waste her time (how women set themselves up to fail)
Episode 559
It is a commonly-held belief that men who are not serious about a woman's long-term commitment should leave her be – especially in her 30s. Don't waste her time! However, disqualifying men because th…
Published on 2 months, 2 weeks ago
Episode 547: The core of respect (approaching the O word)
Episode 558
There is evidence to suggest that men need respect in a sexual relationship more than they need love. However, many women legitimately don't know how to respect a man. In today's episode, I will lay …
Published on 2 months, 2 weeks ago
Episode 546: Getting vs. keeping (emotional labor in dating)
Episode 557
Since men and women gatekeep different aspects of a relationship – commitment and sex, respectively – the burden of effort over the course of a courtship falls on the one who is actively trying to be…
Published on 2 months, 3 weeks ago
Episode 545: Don't be her option (why you get left on read)
Episode 556
Most men are a woman's option – not her priority. And many are complicit in relegating themselves to this role. In today's episode, I discuss how over-pursuing and over-committing lead to suboptimal …
Published on 2 months, 3 weeks ago
Episode 544: Go f**k myself (how to accelerate your growth)
Episode 555
To get what you want in life, it is helpful to cultivate a “fuck you” attitude, that is: the capacity to go without the support or approval of others. However, it may be even more helpful to cultivat…
Published on 2 months, 4 weeks ago
Episode 543: Why men lose interest in sex: Love (where men love they do not desire)
Episode 554
In this third installment on my series on male sexuality, I discuss another reason why men lose interest in sex: love. Like it or not, a good deal of male arousal is predicated on objectification. On…
Published on 3 months ago
Episode 542: The magic ring (marriage isn't the answer)
Episode 551
Despite appearances to the contrary, there are many men today who believe in magic. That is, they believe that marrying a woman will solve the problems that exist in their relationship. In this case,…
Published on 3 months ago
Episode 541: Why men lose interest in sex: Habituation (the allure of the new)
Episode 552
In my second episode on the subject, I discuss another variable antagonistic to male sexuality: habituation. For better or worse, men – or males, more generally – are biologically programmed to sprea…
Published on 3 months, 1 week ago