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Back to SearchWhat I Did When I Couldn't Trust My Own Mind
Episode 251
Before I knew what a trauma bond was, I was hiding my phone under my mattress. I deleted his number, wrote it on a piece of paper, folded it into a j…
4 months, 1 week ago
BPD Splitting in Relationships: What It Feels Like and How to Heal
Episode 250
If you've ever felt adored one moment and suddenly on the wrong side of a wall you didn't see coming, this episode is for you.
I open with my own expe…
4 months, 2 weeks ago
Why They Never See It: The Psychology Behind Why Personality-Disordered People Don't Know They're the Problem
Episode 249
If you've ever wondered why the person who hurt you seems completely unbothered — even convinced they did nothing wrong — this episode is for you.
I b…
4 months, 3 weeks ago
Pattern Recognition vs. The Blame Game
Episode 248
There's a difference between someone naming a pattern to seek resolution and someone digging up the past to dodge accountability. If you've ever trie…
5 months ago
When Mental Illness Becomes an Excuse for Abuse
Episode 247
This month’s Patreon episode dives into a theme that kept surfacing in your questions: When does mental illness explain behavior… and when does it be…
5 months, 1 week ago
How I Help Clients Untangle High-Conflict Divorce
Episode 246
In this episode, I share what it’s really like to support clients through the chaos of high-conflict divorce — when legal processes, endless emails, …
5 months, 2 weeks ago
“No One Sees It” — The Pattern of Covert Abuse (And Why the System Misses It)
Episode 245
“No one sees it. They just think he’s nice.”
If you are in a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting dynamic, you probably feel this in your bones.
One o…
5 months, 3 weeks ago
Wanting Them to Change Isn’t Abuse - Interview with Paul Colaianni
Episode 244
One of the most painful and confusing questions survivors ask is this:
“If I want them to change… how is that different from them wanting me to change…
5 months, 4 weeks ago
“Why Do I Feel Crazy?” — Life Inside a Trauma Bond
Episode 243
This episode puts words to what a trauma bond feels like before there is language for it. The quiet erosion. The logic loops. The way your needs slow…
6 months ago
When Leaving Feels Impossible: The Hidden Reality of Loving Someone With Untreated BPD
Episode 242
Leaving a relationship with someone who has untreated borderline personality traits can feel less like a breakup and more like trying to escape a loc…
6 months, 2 weeks ago