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Master your emotions or they will master you.
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[00:00:00] Penny: We're gonna talk about something a little unsexy today, but it is something that is going to make a difference in your life. We're gonna talk about emotions because I'm seeing some things in the online coaching space, whether it's in groups. In short form content that I'm seeing of people that I follow, that I find detrimental
[00:00:30] our emotions are good period. In the story. Our emotions are good. People often talk about their north star, their why in. Part of that is emotion driven. Your emotions are a compass to leading a fulfilling and satisfying life. If you want to have a [00:01:00] self actual lies life, if you want to live in authenticity, then you have to become a master of your emotions.
[00:01:10] And when I say a master of your emotions, I'm not talking about controlling your outward appearance, as opposed to the way you feel on inside. I'm not talking about pushing things down and managing them. Though mastery of emotions is about managing, but it's not about managing in a way that you are exerting control so that you are not reacting.
[00:01:38] If you find that you have to control yourself so that you are not reacting, then you are not responding to your emotions correctly, and it's not your fault. It's not like our parents were giving owners manuals to teach us how to help us to satisfy our emotions, [00:02:00] to help us through those moments of understanding what we're feeling, how our circumstances and our thoughts contribute to that, so that we can just satisfied in the moment and move on and leave that moment behind us feeling completely.
[00:02:18] Neutral about it because when you have satisfied your emotions appropriately, when you look back to the past, you can be neutral about it. If it's something that was unpleasant, you maintain what you maintained the insight. You grow from it, but it's no longer eating at you inside now with happy emotions through desire.
[00:02:49] When we look back on memories through desire, we can tap back into that joy, the happiness, the love, the excitement, whatever it was that we were feeling.[00:03:00] We typically don't tune into unpleasant emotions. By choice. Unless when we start thinking about something, we choose to allow ourselves to ruminate on it.
[00:03:13] Then we can, bring things back again. But if some aspect of the past, a memory of thought about something unpleasant, if it just pops into your mind, it should not trigger anger. It should not trigger things that make you feel down depressed. Grief being an exception. And I'm gonna talk about grief.
[00:03:36] This is actually going to be a long episode. It's going to be an episode that you are going to come back and listen to again and again, I should actually charge what I'm sharing with you in this episode, because if you take it and you implement it and you use it, it will change your [00:04:00] life. I'm going to use anger as an example, because anger is a very misunderstood emotion.
[00:04:07] We think it's bad.
[00:04:09] We have been conditioned in society that it's not an acceptable emotion motion that we shouldn't feel this. The first thing I'm gonna hit on here is gratitude. Bypassing it's. When we take a situation that was unfair, that angered us where we were wronged and we can see the silver lining, whether it was an opportunity for personal growth.
[00:04:38] We. Changed direction in our life. And it resulted in us having a much better life. Maybe we learned to be a better parent because of what happened. Maybe we learned to be a better partner, a better business person. If you're feeling that anger and you say, you know what? I just need to [00:05:00] be grateful that.
[00:05:02] And I don't care how you feel in the blank. If you are doing that, you are gratitude by passing. You are not dealing with the anger and that anger will come back and it will bite you in the ass. If it doesn't bite
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