Episode Details

When you tell people you think you're being watched, the answer is often "you're being paranoid." Sometimes the tingle at the back of your neck is your oldest warning system doing its job. In this episode, private investigator and former police officer Greg Glassock joins Lisa to explain what surveillance and stalking really look like, and what you can do.

Greg covers why the police are often reactive, how a controlling ex uses fear, isolation, and technology, and the everyday devices that can track you, from phone permissions to gaming consoles and hidden cameras. He shares the color-code system he teaches for staying aware without living in fear, why confidence makes you a "hard target," how to check whether you're being followed, and the line between gathering evidence and looking like the aggressor in court, where a documented pattern beats a single incident.

This is strategic education, not legal or safety advice for your specific situation.

✅ WHAT YOU'LL LEARN
✅ Why the police are often reactive, and when a private investigator can help
✅ How abusers use fear, isolation, and control to keep the upper hand
✅ The everyday devices that can track you, from phones to gaming consoles
✅ Password hygiene that shuts down most digital surveillance
✅ The color-code system for staying aware without living in fear
✅ Why confidence and posture make you a "hard target"
✅ How to run a simple check to tell if you're being followed
✅ The line between gathering evidence and looking like the aggressor in court

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS (+1:00 for the bumper)
0:00 Intro
1:00 Meet Greg: private investigator and former police officer
2:42 Why the police can't always help, and when to hire a PI
6:09 How abusers instill fear: coercion and isolation
7:48 How technology supercharged stalking
9:29 The devices watching you: phones, consoles, even your fridge
11:58 Locking down your digital life
19:23 "Weird coincidences" and sweeping for hidden cameras
25:48 Trust your instincts: the color-code system
35:07 Soft targets, hard targets, and the armor of confidence
40:20 How to tell if you're being followed
44:23 Using (and misusing) surveillance as evidence in court
47:14 Why documentation wins
54:23 Where to find Greg

CTA (spoken): Feeling unsafe or watched by a high-conflict ex? Book a free discovery call at beentheregotout.com.
Books: Been There Got Out — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Relationships-Circumstances/dp/194627495X/ · When Your Ex Turns the Kids Against You — https://www.amazon.com/Been-There-Got-Out-Against/dp/1967674183
Tags: stalking, surveillance, private investigator, digital privacy, coercive control, situational awareness, documenting abuse, evidence, high conflict divorce