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Is it really a long hard road to let go of anxiety?
Episode 99
Does it really have to be hard to overcome that anxiety that we bump up against from time to time in life and business. Is it really a long, hard journey to work through the issues that have created it and get past them. I'm not gonna be around the bush here. The answer's no, it absolutely does not. The prevalence of coaching, and I'm not knocking coaching let's just be 100% straight up, I have coaches I've had other coaches in the past, I have 100% benefited from coaching, but for people who have only given themselves the opportunity to work with coaches are only given themselves the opportunity to work with therapists, to work through normal average everyday things have this misperception that this is like some fucking cross you have to bear. And it's not. I mean, when we're engaging in therapy, when we're engaging in coaching, we are dealing with surface level strategies.
[00:02:14] I was recently a part of a conversation with someone I know who had an experience where they went through a week of an intense period of anxiety. And it all started with a decision that they made to go along with something that someone else wanted. So this person has a tendency to people, please. They went along with what this other person wanted, even though they knew that going into this situation, it was 100% something they did not want to do. 100%. So if you watch my previous podcast episode, you know, I've talked about alignment and values and what brings us happiness and joy. When we make a decision that throws us totally out of alignment, it's going to activate our subconscious mind because our subconscious mind does not like situations that cause us to feel unpleasant feelings. The mind just does not like it. So, what does it do? The mind fires off one thought, then it fires off another thought. And then the next thing you know, those thoughts begin to make you feel bad and you're going, why did I do this? And then it's… it's like firecrackers going off of emotion and thoughts. And we can end up in a spiral that creates this anxiousness, this anxiety. And there's just this perception that it takes forever to work through it. And I want to tell you that it does not. I'm actually gonna walk you through a couple of very short case studies to make my point.
[00:03:54] Now, as a former healthcare professional, I'm going to make this very clear. One: I'm not knocking therapy because with people who have diagnosed conditions, they have trauma and really complex issues around that therapy is totally appropriate. Is therapy appropriate for people dealing with normal everyday problems? Sure. You wanna see a therapist and if just talking about it makes you feel better. That's great. But I'm going to make clear that I'm not talking about clinically diagnosed anxiety, the anxiety that gets in the way of your living every single day, because here's the thing, I'm gonna go into this sidebar for 30 seconds and then I'm back to the topic at hand. The word anxiety is a word that people use to describe how they feel. It is also a clinical term. I'm not talking about the clinical term. We're just gonna make that clear. I don't diagnose people. I don't treat people. However, I do help people get control of their confidence, their self-esteem, let go of self judgment, let go of people pleasing so that they have dominion over their thoughts, so that you have control over where your mind is going to a much greater degree. Now you may say, well, Penny, you can't control your mind, and if you know me long enough, you know that I live by the mantra that control is in illusion. Absolutely. So, what do I mean by controlling your thoughts? When we get into that situation where our thoughts are popping off like firecrackers, and they're creating all these feelings, that is coming from the past, the mind is going, oh, here we go again, we're doing something we don't like. Oh, here we go. We're gonna have to get on an airplane. We hate airplanes. Oh, w
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