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In this week's episode, retired State Police Captain Buddy Saccardo talks about crimes of the heart, how to avoid heartbreak, and how to play it safe while dating online. First dates can be scary for multiple reasons, but there are plenty of ways and precautions to take to protect ourselves. Today's guest is the author of the new book "Capable" by former Massachusetts State Police Captain Buddy Saccardo. He shares what he's learned as a trooper and how we can put a safety system in place so we can stop worrying and start having some fun.

Buddy Saccardo has  served on the State Police, on the MBTA Police Department, and even did security for the Boston Red Sox for eight years. We discuss his career, safety, and the motivation behind his upcoming book Capable.

Captain Buddy Saccardo and Kerry Brett address concerns women have around online. I ask Buddy for his advice on safety protocols and what measures to take when dating. Topics include:

Why people don't listen to their gut and ignore red flags.
Be aware of your surroundings.
Always tell someone that you are going on a date.
Being safe isn't being overly cautious.
Use the rule of opposites, favorable vs. unfavorable.
Why people generalize.  
How to size people up.
How to gather information from people's gestures, understand non-verbal cues, and use basic common sense.
The key to understanding the meaning of non-verbal cues. Gestures are valid.
The importance of taking necessary precautions.
Know your surroundings and pay attention when you go out.
If you feel like something is off and feel fear, forget about being polite.
Rejection brings hostility. Don't fear the one sending threatening texts; all they are just words
The most common crime is not believing in yourself or thinking you're not worthy of love because you are.
Don't let the fear of the unknown or anxiety in general rule your decisions around dating.
Being afraid will rob you of all of the amazing opportunities.

Buddy Saccardo's advice on how to be quick on your feet – buy a pair of sneakers. 

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