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Episode 95
Published 3 years, 9 months ago
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- Summary: In this episode, we focus on how unresolved trauma undermines and sabotages both our capacity and our inclination to love well. We explore how unresolved trauma impacts each of the five characteristics of love -- compromising our ability to love in an affective (emotional), affirming, responsive, unitive and steadfast way. We also dive into how so trauma pulls us to focus inward, and to protect ourselves, undercutting the vulnerability and willingness to engage that are required for deep love and we discuss hope for change.
- Lead-in
- They say love is blind, but it’s trauma that’s blind. Love sees what is.“ — Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships
- And Neil Strauss is right on that. Love connects with reality. With God who is the ultimate realness, the ultimate being, the I AM.
- Trauma is blind and it blinds us. That's what we are talking about today. Trauma and its impact on live.
- They say love is blind, but it’s trauma that’s blind. Love sees what is.“ — Neil Strauss, The Truth: An Uncomfortable Book About Relationships
- Intro:
- Dear listener, You and I are together in the adventure of this podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics, we are journeying together, and I am thankful to be with you.
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- I am Dr. Peter Malinoski, clinical psychologist and passionate Catholic and together, Why are we here? We are here together to bring you the best of psychology and human formation and harmonize it with the perennial truths of the Catholic Faith. So we can have the best of both. That's why.
- Today, we're going to take a broad perspective, a bird's-eye view of trauma's destructive consequences to our capacity to love. What is the effect of trauma on our capacity and inclination to love? That is the question for us to explore together today.
- So welcome to episode 95, of Interior Integration for Catholics, titled Trauma's Devastating Impact on our Capacity to Love, released on July 4, 2022, Independency Day in the USA,
- This podcast, Interior Integration for Catholics is part of our broader outreach, Souls and Hearts bringing the best of psychology grounded in a Catholic worldview to you and the rest of the world through our website soulsandhearts.com.
- Review Trauma. We are in the midst of whole series of episodes on trauma. So just a brief thumbnail review.
- Started with Episode 88 Trauma: Defining and Understanding the Experience Really important to understand the inner experience of trauma -- so you can recognize it in your own life and recognize it an empathetic and attuned way in others' loves. Part of loving them.
- Episode 89 Your Trauma, Your Body: Protection vs. Connection -- a current understanding of how large a role our bodies have in our experience of trauma. Our bodies.
- Episode 90: Your Well-Being: The Secular Experts Speak we review how philosophers and modern secular psychologists understand mental health and well-being. In this episode, we look at the attempts to define what make us happy, from the 4th century BC to the present day. Aristippus, Aristotle, Descartes, Freud, Seligman, Porges, Schwartz, and two diagnostic systems. We take a special look at how positive psychology and Internal Family Systems see well-being.
- Episode 92: Understanding and Healing your Mind through IPNB neuropsychiatrist Dr. Dan Siegel's Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) and what IPNB can show us about psychological health. We review the triangle of well-being, the nature of secure attachments, and the basis for mental health from an IPNB perspective. We examine the characteristics of a healthy mind and how it functions, and the two signs that reliable indicate all psychological symptoms and mental dysfunction. We discuss the nine domains of integration
- Three inner experiential exercises in Episode 93
- Episode 94: The Primacy of Love In this episode, I discuss the central i