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44 Rape, Incest, Shame, and Silence: A True Story Reexamined, Part 3

Episode 44 Published 5 years, 4 months ago
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  1. Intro: Welcome to the podcast Coronavirus Crisis: Carpe Diem!, where by God’s grace, you and I rise up and embrace the possibilities and opportunities for spiritual and psychological growth in this time of crisis, all grounded in a Catholic worldview.   We are going beyond mere resilience, to rising up to the challenges of this pandemic and becoming even healthier in the natural and the spiritual realms than we were before.  I’m clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.  This podcast is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the Catholic spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving.  
    1. This is episode 44, released on November 30, 2020
    2. Thank you for being here with me.  
    3. and it is the eighth episode in our series on shame.  
    4. and it is titled: Rape, Incest, Shame, and Silence: A True Story Reexamined, Part 3
    5. We continuing to deal with very heavy, very difficult material.  
    6. We are continuing our deep exploration of the internal worlds of Crown Prince Amnon and Princess Tamar as recounted in 2 Samuel 13.   
    7. We opened that up in Episode 40, with Part 1 
    8. We continued  the story in Episode 43, last week with Part 2
    9. Now in Part 3, we are continuing to learn what we learned about shame in the conceptual information about shame from Episodes 37, 38, 39.
    10. We're going to focus on listening as we were learning about in Episodes 42 and that we continued practicing in episode 43 -- important to listen to episodes 40 and 43 before this one.  
  2. Cautions  (summarize below)
     
    1. There is an incestuous rape of a teenager in this story.
       
      1. I am not going into unnecessary graphic aspects about the rape itself
    2.  
      1. there isn't a need to get into the all the specific details of it
    3.  
      1. However, I am bringing out the emotional, relational and psychological impact of the traumas here, and not just the rape, but the betrayals and the failures to protect, and the injustice of it all and all the aftermath
         
        1. Those aspects -- betrayal, abandonment, the implications, the meaning of those contextual factors can be and often are worse than the actual physical violations.  And Tamar tells us that in the scripture.  

        1. Those realities can be very difficult to take, it's understandable why people want to avoid discussing them.  

        1. We need to be real about these things.  People who are traumatized, people who are burdened with shame, who are confused, who are lost -- they need resources.  These kinds of awful violations happen.  A lot.  We need to talk about them.  In this podcast I go into them.  

        1. There is no neat and tidy way to talk about incest and sexual violence and its aftermath, especially the experience of shame.  No whitewash, no clichés, no pious pablum.  

        1. And we need to be able to put these thing into a Catholic context, see them from a Catholic viewpoint. 



  4. Warnings --Summarize below.   let's be prudent here in listening to the story -- not an episode for little kids to necessarily be listening to.  
    1. As important as it is to deal with these topics
    2. Be thoughtful about where you are in your life journey, where you are in your healing -- this story may strike close to home for many of you
    3. You don't have to listen to the story or my analysis of it -- listen only if it is good for you -- even for people who are really psychologically well integrated, this is painful stuff.  
      1. Unresolved sexual trauma -- this may be a great time, it may be a ter
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