Life Lessons from Recovery

Episode 114

As we ditch the booze and try to navigate our alcohol drenched world without it we often say we are on a “journey”. My guest this week got sober and then decided to embark on a physical journey.

From Mexico to Canada – on foot! – 2,500 miles! – 5 months!

She applied the lessons from her recovery to the walk and then wrote a book about it..

My guest uses her trail name which is Person Irresponsible – P.I. for short..

In this Episode

PI grew up in a drinking home and married a drinker – a familiar story as we tend to seek out the familiar – our comfort zone
In her twenties she doesn’t recall being worried about her drinking but there were certainly some “incidents’
She realises that she was in deep denial – hanging around with other drinkers to normalise her behaviour
As she got into her thirties her hangovers got more severe, her marriage collapsed and she started drinking until she blacked out
Like many drinkers she fell into “victim” mode, blaming others – in her case blaming her ex husband
As she looks back on this she can see that alcoholism prevents any rational thought
PI became so unhappy during this period she didn’t actually care what happened to her or what harm she was doing to herself with alcohol
She never read romance or chick lit but for some reason she had an urge to read Rachels Holiday by Marian Keyes
At the end of the book Marian had written about AA so PI decided to call the helpline and talk to someone – as a result of this conversation she decided to try 30 days without alcohol
She went to 30 meetings in 30 days and was thrilled to get her 30 day chip – one of the guys at the meetings said – now you have to do 60 days which came as a surprise but she decided to go for it, after all physically she felt so much better!
PI loved the stories and the drama – and the chips at AA – she wasn’t so keen on the solutions and didn’t listen to those..
Unsurprisingly she relapsed – on Day 72 – but the alcohol she drank didn’t give her the relief she was looking for
She went to a meeting and heard a share that really resonated with her – and she finally accepted that she was an alcoholic
That got her back on track and although she suffered from bad cravings now and again she learnt how to “break the spell” – whether by talking to someone or writing a list of reasons to be sober
As she hit one year sober she started to hear a voice saying “surely you can have just one now” – as well as the voices explaining why that would be a bad idea.
As she said she had a “war” going on in her head – full on cognitive dissonance as the psychologists call it..
That made me think of the study by the Tempest that it takes a person an average of 11 years to reach out for help – that’s 11 years of listening to the battle between your rational mind and your limiting beliefs in your subconscious – exhausting!
She made the decision to get her one year chip and then to try having a drink – but then she got a call from a sponsee asking for help – listening to this persons struggle “broke the spell” for her and made her realise that she didn’t want ever to go back to those difficult days again
That’s why we encourage our members to stick around even after they have got sober – it's so rewarding to be able to help other people and it’s a reminder of how tough those early days are – after all who wants to keep doing the hardest bit, again and again.
We even have a 6 years+ group at Tribe Sober and the conversations are quite different on that group – we added up our collective years of sobriety the other day - 184 Years in all!
Like many of us PI found herself with time on her hands when she stopped drinking. Inspired by a movie called "Wild" she decided to walk the worlds longest fo

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Life Lessons from Recovery