Smacked, Hooked and Crashed with Melinda Ferguson

Episode 97

My guest this week has an extraordinary story of recovery to share - she’s gone from a homeless heroin addict living on the streets of Joburg to a highly respected public figure here in SA. Melinda Ferguson is an award-winning South African journalist and author of bestselling memoirs Smacked, Hooked and Crashed. She is also a publisher and runs writing courses to help people find their voice.

In this Episode

Growing up in an alcoholic household Melinda took to booze at an early age – describing it as a “piece of heaven”
As she got older she rejected alcohol as she hated to see her mother drinking so turned towards hard drugs, taking her first hit of heroin at the age of 24.
As a film maker she managed to stay relatively functional for a couple of years – she always had it in mind that she would be able to stop whenever she wanted to
I think a lot of us drinkers are like that – thinking we could stop anytime, its only when we actually try to quit or even to cut down that we realise we have become dependent
When she became pregnant Melinda realized that she was hooked and couldn’t stop – continuing to use throughout her two pregnancies – always planning to stop “tomorrow” but of course tomorrow never came
Her two babies were taken away from her but even then she couldn’t stop using
Rock bottom came for Melinda when she found herself living on the streets as an addict.
Her family removed her from that situation and moved her to a “homeless farm” which happened to be full of alcoholics – so that’s when alcohol re-appeared in her life.
When she was discovered drinking and smoking dagga she was asked to leave – this was a real wake up call – about to be made homeless from a farm for the homeless was her “desperation awakening” as she calls it
She finally accepted that she had a problem and would have to stop using drugs
The only place she had to go was back “home” with her mom – where she had to cope with alcohol in the house and seeing her mom and stepdad drinking every evening.
At this point in her life she had no money, no car, no decent clothes but she did have AA/NA meeting to go to every night which kept her on track
At these meetings she “surrendered” – finally acknowledging that she needed help – something that we agreed was the hardest thing of all.
Melinda had got to the stage when “enough is enough” – I also remember getting to that stage where I thought “I can’t do this any more”
That’s not a bad think and makes me think of a quote from JK Rowling “my rock bottom became the foundation for the rest of my life”
With hindsight she can see that her surrender was actually her strength – not her weakness
Year 1 of her recovery was extremely difficult – just a matter of getting through each day until her evening AA/NA meeting – she felt very depressed and was barely functional
After 2 years in recovery she sensed what she calls an awakening of the spirit and by 5 years she was reconnecting with herself and getting results
We talked about the length of time people spend “in recovery” and agreed that we have to be patient – it also varies a lot – someone with a drinking problem who was able to hold down a job and a relationship is likely to recover more quickly than someone who has hit rock bottom due to hard drugs – all depends on how much you have “messed up” as Melinda put it!
Have a listen to Tribe Sober podcast episode 61 (released in September 2021) – I’m talking to rehab doctor Dr Dawn who explains that in the rehabs they have a rule of thumb that it takes a month of recovery for every year that we’ve been using..
Realising that she was in it for the long haul helped Melinda and she stopped being so hard on herself, she stopped comparing herself with others and beg

Published on 3 years, 9 months ago

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Smacked, Hooked and Crashed with Melinda Ferguson