How Tribe Sober changed my life...with John Rishworth

Episode 93

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life!

My guest this week is one of our loyal Tribe Members – John Rishworth is from Canada and has just celebrated 8 months of sobriety.

After drinking heavily for years John got some counselling to help him come to terms that he would have to make some changes but as he says it was joining the tribe that gave him the connection and support that he needed to put these changes into practice.

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John was in sales and marketing and describes the work hard/play hard culture which prevailed – I think many of us have worked in corporates that have encouraged long hours compensated by drinking sessions sponsored by the company.
He was surrounded by heavy drinkers and used to suffer colossal hangovers.
He talked us through one of his Friday night drinking sessions which could easily escalate into 20 units – a lot when you think that the low risk limits are just 14 units – a week!
He always would have described himself as highly functional but looking back he realises that he was not operating at full capacity.
As we always say even if alcohol doesn’t destroy you it will prevent you from reaching your potential.
The sad thing is that when we are drinking we get used to feeling below par – we always feel tired in the mornings (due to poor quality sleep) – I used to think it was all part of getting older – but now that I am older and alcohol free I realise it was the alcohol that was wearing me out!
That’s why so many of us get quite evangelical about sobriety – its been years since we’ve felt so happy, healthy and energetic!
When John realised that the only thing that would alleviate his all day hangover was a drink he began to realise that he needed to make some changes.
But the real clincher was a hospital stay which involved some liver tests resulting in medical advice to give up drinking completely
John was distraught after hearing this advice and I think many of us can identify with that feeling he experienced on the hospital gurney – that feeling of life being over if we can’t drink…
That’s an indication of the stunning job that the alcohol industry has done to convince us that we need their toxic product to enjoy our lives!
And that’s why it does take “work” to reverse these limiting beliefs – which is exactly what we help people to do at our regular Zoom workshops (go to ts.com – services for more info)
After his hospital scare John did stay off the booze for a few months but then the doctor told him that his tests results had improved so he could have the odd glass of wine – so John had to learn the hard way that he had already crossed the line with his drinking and there would be no going back…
On Fathers Day 2021 John decided that he was going to stop drinking – and that he would find a way to do it – and shortly after that he found tribe sober.
The biggest step of all is to accept that you are alcohol dependent and then to reach out to get some help – then the HOW will get clearer..
Many people eventually get to that stage when they know that they are “done” with alcohol – they are sick and tired of being sick and tired – if you feel that way then don’t despair because it’s a good thing – now you just need to find the HOW. – you need to find other people on the same path
John explained that when people are struggling with alcohol they tend to isolate – I think this is because society expects everyone to be able to drink “normally” which means that the 20% of social drinkers who do become dependent feel that there is something wrong with them!
Women especially have to walk a kind of tightrope – if we don’t drink we are “boring” but if we get drunk that’s not cool either!
That’s why a sober community helps so much – we meet other people who are struggling (so we can ditch the sh

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How Tribe Sober changed my life...with John Rishworth