Judgement

Episode 154

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Speaker 0 (0s): Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to the true life podcast. I hope you're all having a beautiful day. Hope the sun is shining, hope you're feeling great. And I truly hope that the world in which you find yourself today is smiling at you, treating you well. I want to talk to you today about judgment, not so much. The final judgment, where you sit in front of a panel of white robed, goddesses and gods, and they put your heart and your soul on a scale on one side and then a feather on the other, not bad judgment.

Although that sounds kind of beautiful and poetic. Doesn't it? I like to think about that. Sometimes. I like to think about the judgment we do for ourselves upon other people and why it's good and why it's bad. I find myself very judgmental at times, and while it serves me, well, it also serves to stop you in your tracks. Let me give you an example of what I mean.

Sometimes you see what it is you want to see in the environment. And it's often a it's often a sign. Let me just throw this example at you. I find myself at times in a pretty toxic environment. And to me, a toxic environment is being surrounded by people that are doing things that I despise about myself being greedy, being selfish, being weak.

I know a guy who turned his back on his family. I'm going to give you two examples. One is one way to look at it. And another way is another way to look at it. And I'm gonna talk about how I feel about them. So in scenario one, I know a guy that cares nothing about people, only about money. He cheated on his wife. He fails to lead the very people he claims to be in charge of when, when you push them and say, why are you doing these things?

You know, what you're doing is wrong, but you do them anyway. He says, I'm scared. I'm afraid I can't do it. George I'm scared. And when I confronted him and said, these exact words, why are you doing this? You know, it took some prodding to get to that point. I have to point out all the flaws in their argument. As far as you know, immediately, I'm attacked. Hey George, you're doing this all wrong. You're this you're that?

There's just all these ad hominem attacks being thrown at me. And when I point out, look, that's not true. What you're saying about me is not true. I'm not slow. I'm not weak. I'm not dumb. You're judging me on a very short amount of time. Why don't you judge me on the whole time I've been here. And then they come with their facts about, well, look at our numbers here. Look at our numbers there. And I said, well, you're, you're not judging. Those numbers are not an accurate measurement of me.

And it's tough to do that because the system is set up for an adversarial system. It's set up for people to attack you, especially when you have several people planning their argument. Before you have the luxury of sitting down and understanding what they're gonna attack you with. And so when I, when you're in that environment, when I was in that environment, I find myself pushing back and sometimes successfully, sometimes not successfully successfully in that you can be calm and you can say to them, no, no, you're, you're, that's you're wrong there.

That is a ad hominem attack. No, no, no, no, you're wrong. There you are attacking my character and not the issue. And so when I've been successful and I could do that, I can pin them down. And then that's when I say, why are you doing this? You know, what's wrong. You're making all these accusations that are false. And you're trying to pin your inability to solve problems on me. Why are you doing that? And the answer I get is we're s

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Judgement