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Grieving a living parent who will never get a diagnosis or offer an apology creates a second layer of ambiguity: doubting whether the loss is even real. Exploring Pauline Boss's ambiguous loss framework, Arie Kruglanski's need for cognitive closure, and Toni Caverly's writing on estrangement grief reveals why a clinical label wouldn't actually bring resolution. Instead of chasing the cultural myth of closure—a concept critiqued by sociologist Nancy Berns—resilience comes from building tolerance for what remains unfinished. Key sources: • Boss P, Greenberg J, Family boundary ambiguity: a new variable in family stress theory, *Family Process*, 1984 — https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/6519247/ • Boss P, Ambiguous loss: A complicated type of grief when loved ones disappear (reprint with author notes) — https://www.guildhumanservices.org/sites/default/files/2024-06/AmbiguousLossArticlewithPB.pdf • Boss P, Loss, Trauma and Resilience, NCFR presentation slides, 2018 — https://www.ncfr.org/sites/default/files/2018-10/boss-nov-9-ncfr.pdf Episode 6570 — myweirdprompts.com/n/6570 (permanent short link: myweirdprompts.com/010577) Listen on Android: MWP FM Player — myweirdprompts.com/apk