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Someone asked me: "How do I deal with the stories my mind makes up while waiting for him to respond?"

The mind is having a conversation, and here you are as the observer of the mind. Whatever the content is, it could be anything, because if it's not this, it will be something else, and the mind will keep choosing the next thing for as long as we have a thing called the mind. If you don't pay attention, it takes a leash, puts it on you and takes you out for a walk, so the crux of the work is to step back into your seat as the observer.

I talk about the question under the question, why you can't make them respond quicker, how the mind fills up the blanks when it doesn't have the information, putting your focus on things that nourish you while you wait, and why control and love cannot coexist.

In this episode

• Being the observer of the mind's conversation, and why the body reacts and emotions come up
• Why whatever the content is, the mind will choose the next thing
• The question under the question, and why tussling with the conversation is why we suffer
• The mind taking a leash, and why you become the pet if you don't pay attention
• Stepping back into your seat as the observer, and taking the leash off
• Why waiting teaches patience, and why what you put your focus on gets magnified
• Why you can't make them respond quicker, and the time to leave things
• How the mind fills up the blanks when it doesn't have the information, and the narratives it looks for proof of
• Observing without tussling, and how the practice grows your patience and capacity
• Putting your focus on things that nourish you while you wait
• Why there's a really powerful thing when we can just wait, and why control and love cannot coexist
• Laughing at ourselves, and why until we grow we keep getting that lesson back

Chapters

00:00 You're the Observer of the Mind's Conversation

00:55 Whatever the Content Is, the Mind Will Choose the Next Thing

01:31 The Question Under the Question, and Why We Suffer

02:33 The Mind Takes a Leash, and You Become the Pet

03:47 It Teaches Us Patience, and You Can't Make Them Respond Quicker

05:06 When It Doesn't Have the Information, It Fills Up the Blanks

05:56 Observe It, Don't Tussle With It, and the Practice Grows Your Patience

07:15 Put Your Focus on Things That Nourish You While You Wait

08:00 The Powerful Thing About Waiting, and Why Control and Love Cannot Coexist

08:57 Until We Grow, We Keep Getting That Lesson Back

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