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WHAT IF? You’re Wrong About What Other People Think of You
A read receipt with no reply. One awkward comment that takes over your memory of an entire meeting. A boss who answers your idea with “Okay, let’s think about that.” Most of us take moments like these and fill in the missing information with our own fears, then treat the story as fact.
In this episode of What If?, Jamesyn asks what happens when you stop trying to solve the mystery of someone else’s mind and look at your own. She shares what getting coached showed her about the way she listened: she could follow every word someone said and still move right past what they were feeling. That discovery didn’t tell her what anyone thought of her. It gave her a skill she could build, which was far more useful.
In this episode
- Why you remember your own mistake for a week while the person next to you forgot it before lunch.
- How we take a feeling we’re having and use it to explain what someone else must be feeling.
- Confidence and connection are two different things: the listening gap Jamesyn found in herself.
- Why “Did they like me?” leaves you waiting on a verdict, and the questions that give you something to work with.
- What a lukewarm response to your idea at work does and doesn’t tell you.
- The difference between caring how you affect people and monitoring how you’re perceived.
- Three questions to ask before you believe the story you’ve told yourself.
Find your Career Signal
If you’ve been reading your career through what you assume your boss or your team thinks of you, start with what you actually know. The Career Signals Quiz takes two minutes and names the signal you’re dealing with: theboldlife.coach/resource_redirect/landing_pages/2151902103
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About Jamesyn
Jamesyn is a career strategist, author, and the voice behind The Bold Life. By day, she leads learning technology for a robotic surgery education program at a global MedTech company. She’s been choosing again her whole career: from classroom teacher to educational publishing, to learning leadership, to building her own companies. On The Bold Life, she shares the stories and strategy behind career evolution, and works 1:1 with ambitious women ready to build what’s next.
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