Episode Details

Same Enneagram number, completely different behavior? Your subtype explains why. Learn the 3 instincts and which one gets your attention and energy.

A listener asked us to go deeper on Enneagram subtypes (also called instincts), so we are circling back. Your number tells you what motivates you. Your subtype shows where you naturally focus.

Social (the teamers): Asks “Do I belong here?” Reads the room, notices who is included or left out, and cares about group dynamics. The blind spot is overfocusing on fitting in and reputation.

One-to-One (the hunters): Looks for chemistry, intensity, and deep connection. Passionate and energized, but can chase intensity or mistake it for intimacy. This is not about sex or romance. It applies to friendships, work, hobbies, and creativity.

Self-Preservation (the farmers): Asks “Am I okay?” Focused on resources, comfort, stability, and being prepared. The blind spot is overpreparing and putting comfort ahead of growth.

You will also hear:
 How the 3 instincts stack in each of us
 Why your dominant instinct feels automatic while your third one feels like avoidance
 Self-check questions for each instinct to help you find your own
 Why the same number can look so different from person to person

Damon and Kelly share their own subtype experiences, including how a social 8 can look nothing like the stereotype.

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