Episode Details

Your partner shows you what they've bought and your stomach tightens. Or you plan something nice and end up feeling told off.

Most money arguments between couples aren't really about money!

In the third episode on the inner side of budgeting, Shabbar and Tim look at what happens when a careful saver shares a life, and a bank account, with a free spender. They talk about how quickly we judge our partner's money habits as wrong rather than different, and why a small overspend can stir up something far bigger.

Drawing on money psychology and Shabbar's coaching work, they offer a kinder way to talk about money together, starting with owning what your partner's spending brings up in you.

Key themes:

• How a row about spending turns into "do you actually love me"

• Why the difference that attracted you becomes the thing you fight about

• What happens when you both save too carefully, or both spend too freely

Enjoyed this episode? We'd love to hear your thoughts, questions, or your own stories about money. Reach out and connect with us on LinkedIn:

Shabbar: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/shabbarkassam
Tim: https://uk.linkedin.com/in/timmalnick

Explore Tim's work and register for his upcoming workshop: https://timothymalnick.com/

Find out more about Shabbar's financial planning services: https://lumosfinancial.com/