Episode Details

Months after a gay breakup, you may still think about your ex every day. You might miss the sex, the companionship, or how you felt about yourself when he wanted you. Losing those parts of the relationship can make it harder to let go.
In this episode of the Gay Therapy LA Podcast, Ken Howard, LCSW explores why you keep replaying the relationship and when thinking it through becomes rumination. He discusses rejection, aging, sex with an ex, open relationships, and the pull of checking his dating profiles and social media. He also considers how easily we remember the good times while overlooking what wasn't working.

The episode offers ways to understand what you miss, set boundaries around contact and reminders, and rebuild friendships, routines, and self-worth after a breakup. Ken also discusses when persistent distress may call for additional support.