Episode Details

You can love your new life and grieve your old one. Nobody tells you that motherhood runs a friendship audit, and nobody asked for it.

This week we’re talking about what happens to your friendships when you become a mother. Bianca shares the story of a close friend who found out she was pregnant from the Instagram friends tab, and the honest conversation that followed when the friendship couldn’t carry on as it was. Rose brings what she’s seen from the research and her coaching: the guilt of not showing up the way you used to, why the first three years are the trenches, and why the friends who remain become your rocks.

We get into:

• Why your friendship currency changes, and why a one-handed voice note during a feed counts
• Allowing for the drift, and when it’s fine not to have the big conversation
• Why “sorry for the slow reply” should become “thank you for your patience”
• The WhatsApp archive trick and the Google Calendar birthday hack
• Trusting your nervous system after time with a friend

Plus the question Bianca ended on: if you wouldn’t want this friendship for your baby, why do you want it for you?

Part two is coming: how to actually be a friend to a new mum.