Episode Details

In this episode, I sit down with my cousin Krystal McCort, a marriage coach who teaches couples how to design their marriage constitution. Think of it like the actual US Constitution but for your relationship: a living breathing document that outlines the laws and rules that govern how you communicate in every area of marriage. Krystal shares her Kerfuffle Formula, a step-by-step process for how couples bring up disagreements, process them, and reach resolution. We talk about the big three areas she coaches: how to fight, money, and the bedroom. She shares how unwritten expectations are the source of most marital conflict and how most of us are trying to enforce rules we never actually said out loud. I get vulnerable about my own money dynamics with Dallin and what I’m working on. Krystal’s best advice: learn how to communicate vulnerability with your spouse and it changes everything.

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Chapters:

00:00 — Introduction: What Is a Marriage Constitution
 02:00 — The Kerfuffle Formula: How to Fight Without Destroying Your Marriage
 05:00 — Who You Talk to During a Fight and Why That Matters
 08:00 — Where the Constitution Idea Came From
 10:00 — Shared Values and Why You Need a Foundation First
 13:00 — The Big Three: Fighting, Money and the Bedroom
 16:00 — Unwritten Expectations Are Ruining Your Marriage
 20:00 — Brynne Gets Vulnerable About Money and Dallin
 25:00 — Sexual Expectations and Rejection Without Taking It Personally
 32:00 — Scheduled Sex, Back Cave Time and Bringing Physical Back In
 36:00 — Predetermining Parenting Scenarios Together
 40:00 — No-Go Topics: When to Leave Something Alone
 45:00 — Vulnerability, Childhood Wounds and Finances
 50:00 — How to Find Krystal and Work With Her