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Your Feelings Are Real. But What Are They Based On?

You can be genuinely hurt by something you only think someone meant.

You can be genuinely afraid of something that never happens.

You can even become genuinely excited and emotionally invested in a future that hasn't actually been established.

The feeling is real. But what is it based on?

In Part 2 of the Thoughts, Feelings, and Choice series, Coach Del builds on the previous conversation about examining our thoughts and explores how those thoughts can shape our emotional experiences.

Sometimes we're responding emotionally to what actually happened.

Other times, we're also responding to the meaning, motive, or intention we've assigned to what happened.

And when an unproven assumption creates a very real emotion, that emotion can begin influencing how we act, react, and make decisions.

In this episode, Coach Del explores the difference between feeling something about what happened and feeling something about what you believe was done to you, why the intensity of an emotion doesn't prove the thought underneath it is accurate, how both negative and positive assumptions can lead us beyond the facts, and why it's worth examining a feeling before allowing it to influence what you do next.

Ask yourself:

What am I feeling?
What thought is this feeling responding to?
Do I know that thought to be true?
What is this feeling making me want to do?

Next up: CHOICE—what happens when we recognize that our thoughts and feelings don't have to automatically determine what we do next.

What’s REALLY Holding You Back?

Sometimes the thing you think is keeping you stuck isn’t the real thing.

Take Coach Del’s “What’s REALLY Holding You Back?” assessment to uncover the bottleneck that may be getting in the way of your next step.

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