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I’m used to talking about other people’s relationships.

I talk about intimacy, communication, desire, vulnerability, secrecy, and the things people struggle to say out loud. But this episode is different. This time, I’m making room for my own feelings, reflection, and growth.

I’m hurting, and I don’t have a perfectly packaged lesson to give you. I’m still sad. I’m still learning how to care for myself and move forward without abandoning myself in the process.

In this episode, I’m talking about accountability without self-punishment, why closure matters to me, and how love and compatibility aren’t always the same thing. You can have feelings for someone and still need to ask whether the relationship you want can work for both people.

I’m also looking inward. I spend a lot of time encouraging other people to communicate clearly, and I want to keep practicing that in my own life. That means learning to use my words before I reach a breaking point, recognizing what I can do differently, and giving myself room to grow.

I talk about what heartbreak feels like in ordinary life: losing my appetite, crying unexpectedly, switching from “sad Pepper” to “Spicy Pepper” when a client calls, and keeping up with work and daily responsibilities. I also share how my routines and caring for Cocoa remind me that I need care too.

I’m still open to connection. Right now, I’m choosing myself as the priority.

This episode gives me room to be human in the same space where I spend so much time trying to understand everybody else. And I hope it gives you that room too.

What has helped you take care of yourself during a difficult emotional season?

Song Reference:
Corinne Bailey Rae - Till It Happens To You

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