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The Same Damn Argument (Part 4 of 10) 10 Things That Can Make or Break Your Marriage
Season 5
Episode 6
Published 1 week ago
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Have you ever had an argument with your spouse and halfway through thought, "Wait, we've had this exact argument 100 times!"?
In part 4 of our 10 part series, we discuss recurring arguments, and what's really going on beneath the surface which leads to escalation, stonewalling, defensiveness, criticism, contempt, scorekeeping, and unresolved wounds.
The argument is usually NOT about the argument...The dirty dishes mean: "I don't feel appreciated." The money argument may mean: "I don't feel secure." The sex argument may mean: "I don't feel desired."
We end the episode with our weekly challenge:
Next argument, stop and ask: "What are we really fighting about?"
then: "What do you need from me right now?"
We'd love to hear from you - connect with us on social media, or through the website!
As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage!
We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.
For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org. Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter.
To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage. To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org.
Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok.
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR
In part 4 of our 10 part series, we discuss recurring arguments, and what's really going on beneath the surface which leads to escalation, stonewalling, defensiveness, criticism, contempt, scorekeeping, and unresolved wounds.
The argument is usually NOT about the argument...The dirty dishes mean: "I don't feel appreciated." The money argument may mean: "I don't feel secure." The sex argument may mean: "I don't feel desired."
We end the episode with our weekly challenge:
Next argument, stop and ask: "What are we really fighting about?"
then: "What do you need from me right now?"
We'd love to hear from you - connect with us on social media, or through the website!
As always, thanks for listening, and supporting Long Haul Marriage!
We would love to hear from you - drop us a comment, or email us, and remember to share this podcast.
For more info, follow Brian and Jamie Hackney at www.longhaulmarriage.org. Make sure to subscribe to receive our monthly newsletter.
To schedule a coaching session with Brian and Jamie: https://calendly.com/longhaulmarriage. To book LHM for a workshop or retreat, email brian@longhaulmarriage.org, or jamie@longhaulmarriage.org.
Follow LHM on IG, FB, and TikTok.
Music from #Uppbeat (free for Creators!): https://uppbeat.io/t/trinity/into-the-red License code: JS35QUTOPG2FFVDR