Episode Details

The hardest part of an apology is finding the humility to admit we were wrong and be willing to make it right.

Pastor Daniel Cox and Marie Cox open with the worst apology you have ever heard, then walk through what a real one sounds like. Pride keeps us from admitting we are wrong. Excuses keep us from taking responsibility. Humility opens the door to reconciliation. It is not how often a couple fights. It is how they reconnect.

In this episode:
• Do not start with "I apologize." "If you were offended" is not an apology
• Confession means agreeing with God. James 4: humble yourselves
• Motive matters. Some people apologize just so you will not be mad anymore
• It's not how often you fight. It's how long it takes to reconnect
• Pride says I didn't do anything wrong. Humility says I was wrong
• The desire to be right can matter more than the desire to be reconciled
• A car dealership, an apology, and our daughters watching
• You didn't mean it that way. You still owe an apology
• An explanation is not an excuse
• "I was only joking." "You took it the wrong way." Excuses we hide behind
• Humility is contagious
• Two men, one sanctuary, and an invisible line neither would cross
• The answer to pride is not better communication. It is biblical humility
• The Fab Five of apology: admit it, acknowledge it, accept it, ask for it, alter it
• When someone apologizes, don't say "it's okay"
• We are commanded to forgive. We are not always commanded to restore
• Repentance is a change of mind, emotion, and behavior

Pastor Daniel Cox & Marie Cox · Cultural Connections
https://www.culturalconnectionspodcast.com
Calvary Baptist Church, Englewood, Florida · https://calbaptist.net

Scripture
1 John 1:9 · James 4:8-10 · Proverbs 28:13 · Ephesians 4:32 · Philippians 2:3

Chapters
0:00 The worst apology
0:45 Don't say "I apologize"
1:49 Confession and humility
2:45 James 4: Humble yourselves
3:30 It's how you reconnect
4:34 Admitting you were wrong
5:13 Pride says I did nothing wrong
5:43 The car dealership
7:29 Tone and perception
8:33 Explanation, not excuse
10:01 Excuses and responsibility
12:26 Humility is contagious
13:04 The line in the sanctuary
13:42 Humility opens the door to reconciliation
15:39 The Fab Five of apology
16:27 1. Admit it
17:27 2. Acknowledge it
18:24 3. Accept it
19:04 4. Ask for it
20:12 Don't say "it's okay"
21:20 Forgiveness vs. restoration
22:49 5. Alter it
24:35 Mind, emotion, and will
25:33 Marie's apology
26:55 Confession is good for the soul

If this helped, send it to someone you owe an apology. Admit it. Acknowledge it. Accept it. Ask for it. Alter it.

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