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How to Set Boundaries and Protect Your Peace—Nikki Allen | Ep 263
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In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I sit down with recording artist, filmmaker, and author Nikki Allen to talk about self-love, setting boundaries, and what it really means to protect your peace. Nikki shares a powerful philosophy she lives by: “My space is not for loitering.”
But setting boundaries can be difficult—especially when saying no brings guilt, disappointment, or the fear of being seen as selfish. Nikki shares how learning to choose herself changed the way she approaches relationships, her energy, and the people she allows into her life.
If you have ever struggled to say no, felt guilty for protecting yourself, or wondered when kindness becomes self-neglect, this conversation will give you something to think about. Listen in as we explore why loving yourself sometimes means deciding what—and who—gets access to you.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 My Space Is Not for Loitering
00:07 Introduction And Welcome
00:27 Meet Nikki Allen
00:46 You Can Do Anything You Put Your Mind To
01:24 Moving to California And Pursuing the Dream
02:03 The Meaning Behind “My Space Is Not for Loitering”
02:48 Realizing What No Longer Belongs in Your Life
03:41 Self-Love And Setting Boundaries
04:39 Letting Go of the Guilt Around Protecting Your Peace
05:12 Why Everyone Cannot Go With You
06:06 Living a Boundary-Centered Life
06:55 Recognizing When Someone Is Taking Up Your Energy
07:57 Handling Pushback Around Boundaries
08:39 Kindness And Knowing When to Say No
09:28 Saying No Without Feeling Selfish
10:19 Taking Care of Yourself First
10:51 Nikki’s Book About Boundaries And Hospitality
11:51 What Inspired the Book
12:28 When Kindness Gets Taken for Granted
14:45 How Self-Love Changes What You Allow
15:46 Nikki’s Book Loved You, Hated You
16:36 Where to Connect With Nikki Allen
17:06 Closing Thoughts