Episode Details

Clinical psychologist, therapist and ADHD expert Dr Jacob Ambrose returns to explore what a dysregulated nervous system really looks like, why anxiety and hypervigilance can become your normal, and what happens when you finally begin to feel safe.

We discuss why rest can initially feel uncomfortable, the difference between being perceptive and hypervigilant, why rejection can feel so personal, and a difficult question: if fear has powered you for most of your life, what replaces it when you begin to heal?

Chapters:

01:14 What does ‘healing your nervous system’ actually mean

02:17 What does a dysregulated nervous system actually look like

04:50 Why healing makes you feel worse to start with

06:21 The first rule of healing

08:06 The big emotions that come with healing

12:23 How healing reduces anxiety and makes you less productive

17:42 If your life has been powered by fear, what replaces it

19:31 How can you feel exhausted but not realise

21:10 Restorative solitude vs unhealthy isolation

23:55 Tiimo advert

25:30 The early warning signs of a dysregulated nervous system

29:22 Why reason leaves you when you’re triggered

32:51 When rejection stops feeling so personal

37:23 The difference between being perceptive and hypervigilant

38:51 Are you healing when things that bothered you no longer do

41:42 Healing from narcissistic abuse

47:37 Advice for anyone who’s trying to heal

48:49 A letter to my younger self

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Producer: Timon Woodward 

Recorded by: Hamlin Studios

Trailer editor: Ryan Faber

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