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Approach Motivation, Round Two with Ari Tuckman, PsyD
Season 33
Episode 5
Published 12 hours ago
Description
Are you doing the thing because of what you'll get, or because of what you're afraid of? Both get the task done. Only one of them is sustainable.
This week, Dr. Ari Tuckman returns to talk about approach and avoidance, and why so many of us have only ever learned to start the second engine. We get into why avoidance works just well enough to become a habit, why "not as bad" is a ceiling rather than a goal, and what actually changes in a life that runs more on what you're moving toward.
Along the way: the difference between shame and embarrassment and why it matters more than it sounds, what to do at 8 a.m. on a Monday when everything on the list feels equally urgent, and the case for disappointing people early instead of late.
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- (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast
- (00:56) - About the Show
- (02:25) - Introducing Ari Tuckman
- (14:38) - The question of shame
- (22:00) - Approach Motivation
- (29:04) - Approach versus Avoidance
- (37:28) - Find Ari