Episode Details

🎧 Listen to this episode if…

• You've been told to "just get the house valued" but nobody's explained who, how, or what it costs
• Your ex reckons the house is worth a completely different number
• Your ex won't let a valuer through the door – or is stalling on purpose
• You separated years ago and don't know which date the house gets valued at
• You're heading into mediation and need a number that holds up

⚠️ Disclaimer: General information only, not legal advice. Based on Australian family law. Always get independent legal advice for your circumstances.
🛟 This episode discusses manipulative and controlling behaviour. If you're in danger call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732).

About this episode:
You can't divide the property until you know what it's worth. Mum and I unpack appraisals vs valuations, the panel-of-three process for choosing a single expert valuer, the joint letter, the seven-day rule that stops a stalling ex, the dirty tricks people pull, and the date trap – your house is valued at mediation or trial, not the day you separated. Plus strategies for every personality type, from amicable to manipulative and controlling.

⏱️ Timeline
00:00 – What Is Your House Really Worth in Divorce?
01:00 – Why a Valuation Is the Foundation of Property Settlement
02:00 – Legal Disclaimer
03:00 – Why Property Division Is a Mathematical Exercise
04:00 – Rates Notices and Numbers That Don't Count
05:00 – The "Willing But Not Anxious" Test
06:00 – Appraisal vs Valuation: Why Court Wants One Number
07:00 – The Divide-By-Four Trick for Appraisals
08:00 – Selling, Keeping or Being Bought Out
09:00 – Consent Orders With a Formula
10:00 – Keeping the House: Agreed Number or Single Expert
11:00 – Dirty Tricks: Half-Finished Renovations
13:00 – Avoidant Exes Living in the House
14:00 – The Valuer vs Agent Tactic
16:00 – The Panel of Three: Choosing a Valuer Fairly
17:00 – The Joint Letter to the Valuer
18:00 – The Seven-Day Rule That Stops a Stalling Ex
19:00 – Single Expert Valuers: What You're Signing Up For
20:00 – Retrospective Valuations
21:00 – What a Valuation Costs and Who Pays
23:00 – Getting Your Ex to Pay
24:00 – What Happens on Valuation Day
25:00 – Falling House Prices and Timing
26:00 – Do You Need to Be There?
27:00 – Do It Before Mediation
28:00 – What If You Disagree With the Valuation?
29:00 – Shadow Valuers and Cross-Examination
30:00 – When the Valuation Comes in Below the Mortgage
32:00 – The Date Trap: Value at Mediation, Not Separation
33:00 – Building a Wastage Argument
34:00 – Falling Markets and Updated Valuations
36:00 – Why Court Won't Punish Market Timing
37:00 – Court-Ordered Sales and Auctions
39:00 – Rapid Fire: Mortgages, Equity, Selling Costs
41:00 – Valuing the House Without Your Ex's Permission
42:00 – Amicable and Avoidant Exes
44:00 – High Conflict: Single Expert Takes the Fight Out
45:00 – Manipulative Exes on Inspection Day
47:00 – Delay Tactics and Final Thoughts

🎧 Episodes mentioned: Renovations and Divorce: 

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