Episode Details

A pastor and a licensed counselor put 24 years of marriage in a bucket of numbered slips. Forty-five seconds to a minute to explain each one. Go short or go long, and you do not get the point.

This is not a lecture. It is 24 things Daniel and Marie Cox have actually had to live. Pray when you are struggling. Do not use vulnerability as ammunition. Laugh together. Your spouse cannot meet every emotional need you have. And your spouse is not your enemy.

In this episode:
• Pray together, especially when you are struggling
• You can disagree and still be deeply in love
• There will be seasons when one of you carries more of the load
• Talk about money before money becomes a problem
• Never use vulnerability as ammunition later
• Forgiveness doesn't mean pretending nothing happened
• Physical intimacy is more than physical
• Learn how to apologize without adding the word but
• Your children shouldn't become the center of your marriage
• Ministry can strengthen a marriage, and it can also put enormous pressure on one
• Don't compare your marriage to someone else's marriage
• Give each other room to grow
• Don't keep score
• Love is a decision, not just a feeling
• Some arguments aren't worth winning
• Assume the best before assuming the worst
• Don't make permanent decisions during temporary emotions
• We're still learning how to love each other well
• Laugh together
• Your spouse cannot meet every emotional need you have
• Protect your marriage from outside voices
• Your spouse will change, and you need to keep getting to know them
• Date your spouse even when life is busy
• Your spouse isn't your enemy

If your marriage feels like a scoreboard, this one is for you.

Pastor Daniel Cox & Marie Cox · Cultural Connections
https://www.culturalconnectionspodcast.com
Calvary Baptist Church, Englewood, Florida · https://calbaptist.net

Scripture
1 John 1:7 · Ephesians 4:32 · Proverbs 27:6 · Galatians 4:16 · Proverbs 11:14 · Proverbs 17:22

Chapters
0:00 24 years, 24 things
0:46 Ground rules
1:46 Pray together
2:45 Disagree and still be in love
4:11 Seasons when one carries more
5:30 Talk about money
7:15 Vulnerability is not ammunition
9:00 Forgiveness is not pretending
10:22 Intimacy is more than physical
11:44 Apologize without but
13:09 Children are not the center
13:33 Ministry and pressure
15:56 Don't compare your marriage
17:32 Room to grow
19:01 Don't keep score
20:11 Love is a decision
21:41 Some arguments aren't worth winning
22:42 Assume the best
24:11 Temporary emotions
25:45 Still learning to love well
26:58 Laugh together
28:36 Your spouse is not your Messiah
29:49 Protect from outside voices
31:28 Your spouse will change
34:04 Date your spouse
35:00 Your spouse isn't your enemy
36:55 Close

If this helped, send it to a couple you love. Not as a lecture. As a reminder you are on the same team.

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