Episode Details

"Gay is gay."Except it isn't. And if you're parenting both a son and a daughter through coming out, you may know that, but NOT know what to do.

A gay son and a lesbian daughter face different stereotypes, different safety realities, and different early questions about who they are. This episode names both directly.

In this episode, you'll learn how to:

• Debunk the most common stereotypes attached to gay sons and lesbian daughters
• Understand the orientation-specific safety facts every parent needs: HIV/PrEP awareness for sons, IPV and healthcare access for daughters
• Recognize that your son and daughter may need entirely different support from you, even when coming out into the same family

Press play to learn what's actually different, and why it matters that you know.

RESOURCES

https://heatherhester.net/starthere

PFLAG (pflag.org)

CDC HIV testing/PrEP locator (hiv.gov)

The Trevor Project (1-866-488-7386 / text START to 678-678).

The Gottman Institute Study on Same Sex Couples

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More Human. More Kind. formerly Just Breathe: Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen is a safe and supportive podcast in a heartfelt and empowering space where a mom and advocate offers the wisdom of lived experience and practical guidance and education to parents and allies, teaching empathy, kindness, love, and strong boundaries while supporting LGBTQ teens and the diverse LGBTQ community, including gay, lesbian, bisexual, trans, transgender, a