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Divorce: The Petty Fights That Cost You Thousands. What Top Attorneys Want You to Know...
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Episode Show Notes
People spend thousands of dollars fighting over some truly ridiculous things in divorce.
A wooden spoon. A blender. A sixth-grade yearbook. Beanie Babies. Airline miles. Even a tanning bed.
And as funny as those stories sound, there is a very real reason they matter.
Because most of the time, the thing you are fighting over is not actually the thing you are fighting over.
In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are joined by attorneys Sarah Jacobs and Jamie Berger of Jacobs Berger for a conversation about the emotional and financial cost of digging in during divorce.
One client spent hours in court fighting over a wooden spoon named Willy Woo. Another divorce came down to a battle over a blender. And one case required attorneys to spend days sorting through tubs of Beanie Babies because neither side could let them go.
The stories are absurd.
The behavior behind them is not.
Divorce Can Turn Small Things Into Expensive Battles
When you are going through divorce, emotion can completely distort value.
An object may be worth $100, but suddenly it represents your marriage, your history, your independence, your power, or your need to finally “win.”
That is where people start spending far more in attorney fees than the thing they are fighting over is actually worth.
In the episode, Andrea points out that the fight over one wooden spoon likely cost thousands of dollars in legal fees alone.
And that is exactly why divorce strategy matters.
Before you dig in, you have to ask yourself:
What is this actually worth?
Not emotionally.
Financially.
The Real Problem May Be Control
Sometimes the fight is not about property at all.
Morgan explains that many of these so-called “squirrel issues” ultimately come down to