Episode Details

You are not unhappy exactly. You are feeling stuck in life, and it has gone on long enough that it feels like the shape of things rather than a phase. Barbara Barna Abel says the thing that started it is rarely what keeps you there. What keeps you there is the blame, the shame, and the belief that you earned it.

Barbara is a communications coach, author and host of the podcast Camera Ready & Abel. She walks through where to start: forgiving yourself first, asking how you want to feel instead of what you want to own, and auditing the hard no you set years ago for reasons that may no longer apply. We also get into your money story, and why the fear of what people will think is real.

Key Insights:
✅ Forgiving Yourself Comes Before Any Change
✅ Ask How You Want to Feel
✅ Ask If Your Old No Still Fits
✅ You Are Allowed to Receive Good Things
✅ Nobody Is Paying as Much Attention
✅ Your Money Story Is Worth Examining

Chapters:
00:00 Is It Ever Too Late to Change?
04:19 Where Do You Start When You Feel Stuck?
07:20 Small Free Habits That Shift How You Feel
11:41 SIBO SOS (Sponsor)
12:36 Is Your Hard No Still Serving You?
16:34 Why You Might Not Feel You Deserve Good Things
19:12 What Praying for the Highest Good Means
21:40 What Does That Goal Actually Represent?
25:24 Why You Fear Changing in Front of People
29:35 What Is Your Money Story?
32:10 Why Success Gets Cast as the Villain

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Website: https://abelintermedia.com/
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Barbara's book, Becoming Legends: Elsie-Bessie: A Love Story: https://abelintermedia.com/book/

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