Episode Details

You want love.

You want support.

You want good things to happen to you.

So why does some part of you still tense up when they actually arrive?

Because when love has historically come with conditions, disappointment, betrayal, obligation or loss, receiving something good can feel surprisingly vulnerable.

You may find yourself wondering:

What’s the catch?
What will this cost me?
What are they going to want from me?
What if I let myself depend on this and it disappears?
What if opening myself up just gives someone another opportunity to hurt me?

After divorce, those protective instincts can follow you into far more than romantic relationships.

They can shape how you receive kindness.

Help.

Friendship.

Opportunity.

Support.

Even the things you deeply want.

In this guided meditation, we’re not going to force your heart open or ask you to trust before you’re ready.

Instead, you’ll gently explore what your heart has been protecting you from and practice allowing love, care and goodness to come toward you without immediately needing to earn it, repay it, control it or brace for what happens next.

Inside this episode, you’ll:

• Notice how your body responds when love or support comes toward you
• Explore what your heart may still be protecting you from after divorce
• Practice receiving without performing, proving or reciprocating
• Soften the instinct to search for the catch
• Create a new experience of allowing kindness, care, joy and support to feel safe
• Practice opening your heart without abandoning your boundaries or yourself

Your heart does not have to fling the door wide open.

An inch is enough.

Because healing doesn’t usually happen through one giant act of trust.

It happens through small experiences that teach your nervous system:

Maybe this doesn’t have to cost me.

Maybe I don’t have to fight for everything.

Maybe something good can come toward me…and I can let myself receive it.

This Thursday VIP episode is unlocked for everyone.

And if this episode brings up the realization that you’re exhausted from trying to heal, figure everything out and hold yourself together largely on your own, enrollment for A Different D Word is open now.

A Different D Word is my 12-month divorce healing experience for women who want deep, individualized support as they process the grief, trauma, attachment patterns and nervous-system wounds that divorce can expose.

You don’t have to know exactly what you need before you begin.

And you don’t have to earn the right to be deeply supported.

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