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374: Teaching the Body to Feel Safe, with Holly Bridges
Episode 374
Published 2 hours ago
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Your kid's nervous system is not a machine you can just tell to calm down. It is more like an octopus: sentient, sensitive, and completely uninterested in being managed.
That is the metaphor body-based nervous system expert Holly Bridges uses to describe what is actually happening underneath meltdowns, shutdowns, and the constant hypervigilance so many of our neurodivergent kids live with. Holly wrote “Reframe Your Thinking Around Autism” using polyvagal theory and brain plasticity over fifteen years ago, and has spent the years since building a body-based approach to nervous system regulation that works with kids, teens, and adults navigating autism, ADHD, trauma, and more.
In this conversation, we talk about why the word regulation does not quite capture what we are actually going for, and why safety or freedom might be a truer goal. Holly walks me through the vagus nerve as a living, branching system rather than a set of pipes to zap into submission, and explains why forcing, pushing, or even well-meaning calming techniques can send a dysregulated nervous system further into hiding. We talk about behavior as communication in its most literal, physiological sense, why kids need to feel invited rather than dragged into this work, and what it actually looks like when a nervous system finally learns it is safe enough to come out from behind a locked door.
If you have ever understood emotional regulation on paper but still cannot crack the code with your own kid in the moment, this conversation offers a different way in, one rooted in the body, not the behavior chart.
Listen to the full episode now.
Take the free quiz to find out where to start with your neurodivergent child: parentingadhdandautism.com/quiz
Show notes and more resources at parentingadhdandautism.com/374
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/beautifully-complex--6137613/support.
You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com. It's not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time.
That is the metaphor body-based nervous system expert Holly Bridges uses to describe what is actually happening underneath meltdowns, shutdowns, and the constant hypervigilance so many of our neurodivergent kids live with. Holly wrote “Reframe Your Thinking Around Autism” using polyvagal theory and brain plasticity over fifteen years ago, and has spent the years since building a body-based approach to nervous system regulation that works with kids, teens, and adults navigating autism, ADHD, trauma, and more.
In this conversation, we talk about why the word regulation does not quite capture what we are actually going for, and why safety or freedom might be a truer goal. Holly walks me through the vagus nerve as a living, branching system rather than a set of pipes to zap into submission, and explains why forcing, pushing, or even well-meaning calming techniques can send a dysregulated nervous system further into hiding. We talk about behavior as communication in its most literal, physiological sense, why kids need to feel invited rather than dragged into this work, and what it actually looks like when a nervous system finally learns it is safe enough to come out from behind a locked door.
If you have ever understood emotional regulation on paper but still cannot crack the code with your own kid in the moment, this conversation offers a different way in, one rooted in the body, not the behavior chart.
Listen to the full episode now.
Take the free quiz to find out where to start with your neurodivergent child: parentingadhdandautism.com/quiz
Show notes and more resources at parentingadhdandautism.com/374
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/beautifully-complex--6137613/support.
You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com. It's not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time.